by Pastor John Kim

When I was attending UCLA and studying psychology (after a two year bout with pre-med bio), there was one thing that started to stand out about all that I was hearing. There seemed to always be a reason to deflect personal responsibility for “abnormal behavior.” Taking abnormal psych revealed that EVERYONE is abnormal so it really is not our faults because it is either society’s fault, our parents’ faults, our cultural upbringing, the trauma we had coming through the birth canal, and a host of other possibilities where we could conveniently place the blame for why we are the way we are.

The Bible is clear in that the primary reason for all our “abnormal behavior” is really because we are sinful creatures that are prone to rebellion against God’s design and we are quick to point the finger at what others do. Or maybe worse yet, we blame God.

Wives blame husbands, husbands blame wives, parents blame children, children blame parents, church members blame the pastor, the pastor blames the church members, neighbors blame the “bad” neighbors, employees blame the boss, boss blames the employees, and the list can go on ad nauseum.

There is a simple response to all this psychological irresponsibility. Admit that YOU are the one responsible for YOUR sin. Yes, others might make it difficult and even tempting, but in the end, we make the choices to sin. Others do not force us to sin, even if they were to threaten us with violence. We still have a choice to make.

Do you take responsibility for YOUR sin? Or will you just try to deflect it to others? Maybe for some of you, you don’t want to even admit that you sin. Take a look at Scripture and see what God says:

“If we say that we have no sin, we are deceiving ourselves, and the truth is not in us. If we confess our sins, He is faithful and righteous to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness. If we say that we have not sinned, we make Him a liar, and His word is not in us.” 1 John 1:8-10

Let’s stop blame-shifting and start taking responsibility for ourselves. But it doesn’t end with just trying to beat ourselves up. Consider 1 John 1:9 – we look to the character of God as we respond humbly in confession.

This is why there is always hope. God is faithful and righteous. He will never change. So let us rejoice in hope (Romans 12:12).