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Nate Kwak

by Nate Kwak

It’s definitely been the best 4 years of my life. I became a Christian shortly before entering college, and had no idea what to expect. I had never moved away from the same home in Orange County since the day of my birth, and moving just 2 hours south to San Diego was a huge step for me.

Freshman year, God gifted me with a room meant to be a double that I had all to myself because my roommate-to-be decided to not attend UCSD at the last moment. Then God, a month and a half later, gifted me as I was eating spaghetti and studying my Math 20C book, in Canyon Vista. Paul Molina enthusiastically approached me and said, “Hi, Nathaniel? I’m Paul. I’m going to be your new roommate!” That year, I discovered the joy of drinking the pure spiritual milk of the Word, growing tremendously in knowledge, not to mention excitement, in regards to the character of God. With the consistent phone calls from Juim on Saturday nights and her ever faithful minivan, I immediately committed to Lighthouse from week one.

By Sophomore year, God challenged me to practically live out all the things I was learning. This was extremely difficult as He revealed to me more and more of my depravity and sinfulness, especially in light of slowly being given more ministry responsibility and also in living with an apartment full of Christians in Warren (Chris, Ben, Paul). It was tremendous fun partaking in fellowship with brothers and really struggling in figuring out whether or not playing Super Smash Brothers and toying with Zippo lighters really counted as fellowship.

By Junior year, God was slowly developing me to really see that life really wasn’t about me. I had heard about it time and time again from Pastor John. “IT’S NOT ABOUT YOU,” he would scream… lovingly. Man, three years in and still going strong, that guy. But God continued to patiently reveal to me that though I knew this concept, denying self, taking up the cross, and following Christ really meant giving it all up. Back when I accepted Christ, God bought my life with a price and I was freed from the world, joyously made a doulos to Him! This realization was extremely sobering, but extremely refreshing.

Senior year, this year, has definitely been a time of solidifying. God has been teaching me to bear down and understand that it really isn’t about how I feel or about the circumstances that I am thrust into. There have been many moments where I question God, many moments where I don’t feel like pursuing holiness. But God always gently reminds me that He is unchanging and faithful. What can I do but drop to my knees and praise Him with all that I do? What less can I give to Him than my all? The truth has never been more engrained in me than now. Neither has sleep… every year my bedtime has moved closer and closer to the “PM” side of my bedside clock.

Lighthouse has been such an encouraging church body through it all. It was at this church, through all its struggles and joys, that I was given a foundation of truth. It was its members who held me accountable to staying on the straight and narrow path. God used the leadership of Lighthouse to work his process of sanctification in me. It was a place where I saw a family of believers really encourage one another and love one another in a genuine manner. From Flocks to Affinity groups, from Scripps Ranch to Sorrento Valley, from 100 members to 250 members, the four years I’ve enjoyed here in San Diego as a part of Lighthouse has been one of the prevalent blessings of my life. To the glory of God the Father.

Favorite place in SD: Hands down, the Cliffs. With a guitar and a Bible, I can spend countless hours there
Favorite verse: Philippians 2:5-11
Advice for collegians:Talk to everyone you can. Wherever you are, just talk to people. Encourage Christians, evangelize to non-Christians. For the guys, talk to the older guys at church, don’t spend all your conversation on video games and sports, talk about God…and don’t make it a weird thing to pray with others. Pray honestly. Pray genuinely.

Melanie Chen

by Melanie Chen

As I look back, it seems as if it were only yesterday that I was in high school. I am blown away that 4 years of college have come and gone, and that I am about to enter the working world. My college experience has been different from that of most other LBC collegians, but I see how God has grown me throughout my college career through it. I attended San Diego State University as a commuter student. Being a commuter made it difficult to get plugged into a fellowship, so during my first year, I struggled with consistently attending a church. With my lack of accountability I knew I wasn’t being challenged to grow so I began visiting churches. By the grace of God I somehow got in contact with one of my past youth counselors. This lovely lady happened to have just started attending Lighthouse Bible Church and invited me out to (what was back then) Flocks. Chi Flock is what initially captivated me and gave me a desire to continue attending LBC. My heart was touched at how seriously the Word of God was taken through the in-depth study and Biblical teaching. I also saw this in other aspects of LBC, such as its structure, leadership, and fellowship.

Initially, when I began attending Lighthouse, I definitely felt like a spiritual baby compared to the rest of the church body. God did place in my heart a desire to grow and be fed the pure milk of God’s word. Through attending Lighthouse, I have truly been blessed by the example of older women who have counseled and nurtured me to become more of a woman of God everyday. I have been so encouraged by my brothers and sisters and their willing hearts to serve one another, becoming slaves and submitting to the Word of God. Through their examples, I have learned about the severity of my sin and how much more I need to submit to God’s will. I thank my brothers and sisters for you all have been such an example and encouragement in my life.

I wouldn’t really say that I have a favorite restaurant, rather, I enjoy fellowshipping over the excitement of trying new foods all around San Diego. Some of my favorite places to go are Hash House A-Go-Go, Extraordinary Desserts, WhiskNLadle, Nordstroms Café, Lorna’s Kitchen, Champagne Bakery and Itrulli’s. I enjoy being anywhere as long as I’m in the presence of fellow brothers and sisters. A song that reflects these past four years for me is Michelle Tumes – Heaven’s Heart. Her music reminds me of the beauty of God and all that He has created for us. One verse that has particularly challenged me throughout college is Philippians 4:6. It is so easy to get caught up in college life with studying, exams, stress, and desiring to achieve high worldly goals. As it is easy to become consumed with stress, this verse is a reminder for me to keep my focus on Him and to trust in the Lord. It is always a challenge for me to consistently strive to do all things for the Lord, while having the right heart and mindset each and everyday.

To leave off on an encouraging note for those future collegians, I’d like to encourage you all to get plugged into a church early on. It is important to have the accountability to grow and keep your heart right throughout college. Being in a slightly different situation than other collegians, a commuter and attending SDSU, I challenge you to still take advantage of the fellowship time you have with other collegians. Despite the miner differences, we are all still a part of one body and are brothers and sisters in Christ. May I remind you to not look towards yourself, but to continue striving to glorify God and seek for opportunities to serve one another.

Terence Kim

by Terence Kim

Wow, what a ride it’s been! God has shown me and grown me in ways I did not foresee. My eyes have been opened to new things that were unimaginable to me. But out of my whole college career, the thing that most compels me to give praise to God is my salvation!

I remember being so hungry for God’s presence prior to college. I remember playing for the praise band, asking God to help me believe the words that I am singing, to help me believe that He is real. Life’s questions left me baffled; nothing made sense without God. Yet, God did not make sense to me either. I lacked faith and I thought I had all the facts I needed to assess the existence of God. “He does not exist, and even if He did, He has not done a very good job in helping me get to know Him.”

I came to college ready to party hardy. If God doesn’t exist and this life is the only one I’ve got, then I might as well live it up, right? It was when I got to the lowest point in my life, in which the world had laid bare to me what it had to offer, that, by God’s sovereign grace, I began to see the vanity of it all. I truly felt as if I was “striving after the wind.” With God’s perfect timing, He introduced friends to me who had a high view of the Word. During intimate conversations, I would bring up the deep questions to life that I felt no one had the answers to. Expecting an awkward silence or a reply of defeat, I was surprised to hear answers straight from scripture. Never had I felt so ashamed. I’ve gone to church all my life. How come I don’t know as much scripture than these people? On top of that, their answers were so adequate that I was left speechless. They had revealed to me the authority of the Word. Why hadn’t I thought of looking there for answers in the first place? I wanted to find a church that would help me learn the truths found in scripture and learn them fast. Ben Lee directed me to Lighthouse and I went.

I thank God for LBC. Through it, I’ve gotten to know God, which is something I previously dismissed as impossible! I’ve come to believe in Christ’s work on the cross and how it saves me. I’ve also learned what I’ve been saved from, though the acknowledgment in my heart of its truth has plenty of room to grow. Just experiencing God’s promises and His plan for me has changed the very core of my life, my philosophy, and my perception. I tell you the truth, the contrast is as stark as day and night! God has also added a new dimension to relationships, bonds that only Christians can enjoy. God has provided me with loving friends, respectable role models, and zealous pastors at this church.

I’m excited to see where God takes me and how He will use me and stretch me. My plans are to stay down here in SD and work directly under John Yi at Staccato Communications. So I’ll see y’all around! Be encouraged!

Favorite place in SD: Lighthouse Bible Church, duh
Song that will define the era in 10 years: “Harder Better Faster Song” by Daft Punk
Favorite Verse: 1 John 4:19. So much truth drips from these words. Drips.
Memory that stands out the most: The time I pulled two all-nighters in a row and began to hear things, hallucinate, and lose control of bodily functions.
Advice for collegians: Live with urgency. The relationships you build in college are only temporary, the church you may go to may only be temporary, your life is temporary! Don’t waste any of it.

Paul Molina

by Paul Molina

As a freshman, I had many selfish goals when I came into college. I wanted to meet girls and fill my 250gb hard drive with illegally downloaded movies and mp3s. But thankfully, God changed the direction of my life. He strategically gave me a Christian roommate named Nathaniel Kwak and allowed me to live with two more Christians (Ben Lee and Chris Katsura) during my sophomore year. All three of them were part of Crossroads Campus Ministries, so I decided to check it out. I can still remember being amazed at the praise that people sang and how the pastors taught directly from the bible during their sermons. One pastor in particular, Eric Chabaneix, gave a sermon about the gospel and explained how Christ was the Lamb of God who died for the sins that I had committed. This was one of the first times that the gospel was explained so clearly to me. I also began to attend LBC and was further blown away by the people that did not just attend church but were a part of the church body. I noticed that there were people that wanted to serve the church by handing out bulletins, setting up chairs, serving food, and managing the sound equipment. Also, Pastor John’s scripture based preaching was tremendously encouraging and challenging.

God used these various people and events to plant His word in my heart and give me faith in Him. I was baptized on November 6, 2005 and became a member of LBC a year later. I was extremely blessed to be a part of Theta Flock where I was put in a small group with Min Kim, Kevin Tse, Thomas Fong, Steve Lee, and Silas Chiu and I was able to meet other Christians that encouraged me on my spiritual walk. The bible was no longer a book that collected dust on my shelf, but it became an essential source of spiritual food and guidance. No longer do I look for satisfaction in living a self-centered life, but I strive to live my life in a God-centered way. I have learned that I am no longer the master of my own life, but I have a Lord whom I joyfully serve and submit my life to.

After graduation, I am planning on applying to Pharmacy school and during my year off I plan on taking community college classes. I can now look forward to a future of service to the Lord and joyful hope in the salvation that I have in Christ. I am not sure exactly where I will end up in the future (whether I’ll be back home, in San Diego, out of state, or abroad), but I trust that God will guide me according to His good and sovereign will. I am forever grateful for the pastors that God has placed over me who continue to lead me to a greater understanding of God and His word. I am also thankful for all of the brothers and sisters that have encouraged me in my faith and have shown me Christ-like compassion and love. God is definitely good.

Favorite place in SD: The cliffs
Song that will define the era in 10 years: “When I Think About the Lord” by Shane & Shane
Favorite verse: Matthew 22:37-40
Memory that stands out the most: Lighting stuff on fire and breaking Andy Shin’s nose
Advice for collegians: Love God and love others! (and don’t light stuff on fire)

A Word From Pastor Pat

by Pastor Patrick Cho

The 2007-2008 school year is finally winding down and it is an exciting time as the graduating seniors prepare to finish their undergraduate studies in order to enter the working world. For some, it may be the first “full-time” experience they will ever have since being a student was hardly full-time! For others, this transition may be delayed as they apply and pursue graduate degrees and thus more school. Whatever the case, the month of June marks a major milestone in the lives of our graduates. While there should be a sense of pride in their accomplishment, there is also a bit of trepidation because of the sad reality that many collegians when transitioning to working life abandon the things of faith altogether and turn their backs on the Lord.

Certainly one of the deterrents to this spiritual trend is to be established in a good local church. One particular characteristic of a good local church, of course, is that it is committed to the consistent sound teaching of the Word of God. But the graduates are also going to need older godly men and women who are willing and available to invest in them in order to hold them accountable to their profession of faith in Christ. In order for the transition from college to single life to be smooth, they are going to need the influence of others who have been there and experienced the same struggles that come with the transition to watch over them.

This is one of the vital aspects of discipleship ministry that student parachurch organizations cannot replace. Campus Bible studies and Christian student organizations can provide wonderful teaching, fellowship, accountability, prayer, and opportunities for evangelism, but these ministries were not designed for continued discipleship beyond graduation. This is why so many students who only invest themselves in parachurch ministry find the transition after college to be extremely difficult spiritually because their network of Christian fellowship has been removed and their primary source of accountability is gone. The church is intended to provide that spiritual support for these students, but if they are not engaged in the life of the church, they will lose out on this vital support.

However, the biggest reason for this post-graduate struggle is not circumstantial or experiential. In the end, it boils down to the sin in a person’s heart. Even as Christians, we often forget the comprehensive impact and influence sin has on our lives. Sin affects our actions and speech, but we neglect how it can affect our motives, desires, and will. Because of our sin, we do not respond rightly to difficult circumstances. But in the same way, because of our sin, we do not always respond rightly even to blessings. Sin affects our thoughts (Jer. 17:9-10; Rom. 1:21-22) and it affects our motives (James 4:3). Even when a person might feel like his life is characterized by good behavior, the Lord sees past outward actions to the heart (Prov. 16:2; Heb. 4:12).

Since sin is the problem, Christ can be the only real solution. If students do not have Christ as their chief affection, it is no wonder that the riches of the world or selfish ambition might rule their hearts after graduation. The prospect of a full-time salary might become too alluring. For many, it will be more money than they have ever seen. For others, the struggle might be with prestige. The fight to move up the corporate ladder or accomplish personal goals might consume them. When Christ is not central to their thinking and if motives are not filtered through principles of His Word, it is no surprise that so many students fall by the wayside after graduation.

This has been a difficult year for College Life because there have been many students who have struggled with their faith in significant ways. Some have walked away from the things of the Lord entirely and we grieve for them. Others were tempted to, but are hanging on by a thread. Still others are constantly working through doubts and struggles that attack their assurance and cause them to question the sincerity of their faith. Sin has always been the chief problem and so Christ is always going to be the solution. He is our Redeemer. He is the one who breaks the power of sin and sets the prisoner free. It is only through Christ that we can be transformed by the renewing of our minds (Rom. 12:2), and it is only through Christ that we can receive the Spirit of God in order to think His thoughts (1 Cor. 2:16).

I want to encourage all of our graduates to take some time to consider who Christ is and what He has accomplished on the cross. On our best day we deserve no better than hell. This is because of our sin-sickness. Our hearts are prone to rebel against our Creator and Lord and because of our sin we deserve eternal judgment. Without Christ, we are self-proclaimed enemies of God and His wrath is directed at us. But it is God in the richness of His mercy and love who redeemed us, changed us, and freed us from the slavery of sin. It is only through Christ’s work on the cross that sin’s penalty is paid for us because He took the full force of the wrath of God for our sins. It is only through Him that our lives could be changed. Do you want to avoid spiritual decline after graduation? The solution is the same as it always has been. Fix your eyes on your glorious Savior who bore your sins on the cross that you might be credited with His righteousness. Without this, all the accountability in the world will not help you. Christ must be all in all (cf. Phil. 3:8; 1 Cor. 8:5-6; 2 Cor. 5:15).

Practicing in Dating What You Know to Be True

by Pastor Patrick Cho

A few weeks ago I had a chance to speak during the DTR series about “Breaking Up to the Glory of God.” In the introduction to that message I made some comments about the importance of developing a solid theology of dating and I wanted to elaborate on those thoughts. The basic idea is that even Christians with a good understanding of theology oftentimes do not put their beliefs into practice when it comes to dating. Although they might profess to believe in particular aspects of biblical theology, they live as though they don’t. James exhorts believers not to be mere hearers of the Word, but doers also (James 1:22). In particular, it isn’t enough to have a correct understanding of God and His Word if you are not willing to allow your beliefs to affect your thinking.

Here are some examples of how I have witnessed people doing this (and how I have done this as well!)…

The Glory of God. When it comes to the glory of God, every good Christian knows what Paul teaches in 1 Corinthians 10:31. Everything you do, regardless of how mundane, is supposed to be for the glory of God. The glory of God is really supposed to be the ultimate motivation behind everything a person does because God is worthy of all glory and honor and praise. When you seek to enter into a dating relationship, it becomes tempting to have personal desires take precedence over God’s will. You may seek to live for personal satisfaction rather than the glory of God, and that which should take ultimate priority takes a back seat. When you do not get what you want, you have sinful attitudes of doubting and complaining. This manifests that you do not seek God’s glory as much as you ought.

The Sovereignty of God. Psalm 103:19 states, “The LORD has established His throne in the heavens, and His sovereignty rules over all.” You may have come to the conviction that God is sovereign over all things. The Bible even teaches that God is sovereign over a person’s salvation (Eph. 1:5), and many Christians are happy to accept this because they know that they would never have sought after God if He had not have first chosen them. When it comes to dating, though, practically you may exhibit a lack of trust in the sovereignty of God. Questions may flood into your mind like, “What if I don’t act soon enough?” or “What if he/she starts dating someone else?” All of a sudden, because you are gripped with getting what you want, you abandon your belief in the sovereignty of God and try to manipulate and control circumstances on your own. You must act because you doubt that the Lord will act on your behalf. You doubt that God is in control and so you take matters into your own hands.

The Goodness of God. James tells us that every good thing and every perfect gift is from our heavenly Father (James 1:17). Why is it that in the context of dating you tend to question God’s goodness so much? When things don’t go your way, you question whether God is good. “Why would God give me such longings only to not let me have what I want?” Ultimately, this is the wrong question to ask. The correct question is, “Why aren’t my desires in line with God’s desires for my life?” God is a good God, but somehow you may be tempted to doubt this if you do not end up with the person you had hoped for.

The Wisdom of God. Perhaps you are sure that a certain guy or gal is the one for you. When that person does not feel the same way as you, do you question whether God knows what He is doing? Perhaps you need to meditate on Romans 11:33-36 and the awesome wisdom of God. You ought not to act as though God is mistaken. He is infinitely wise and knows how to govern your life in the best way.

The Omniscience and Omnipresence of God. If you find yourself in the context of dating, and you have a clear understanding that God is always there and always watching, you would be less susceptible to sexual sin. Solomon says to his son in the context of warning him against sexual sin, “For the ways of a man are before the eyes of the LORD, And He watches all his paths” (Prov. 5:21). Do you live as though God is always there and that He is always watching? Psalm 139:1-12 speaks about God’s amazing omnipresence and omniscience, but in a dating context you may live as though you think God is blind or absent.

The Sufficiency of Scripture. When it comes to the theology of the Bible, many would argue that the Bible doesn’t say anything about dating. I know what these people mean, that one will not find the idea of dating in any Bible concordance and that there is no chapter and verse on dating in particular. My greatest question in response, though, is if the Bible gives no wisdom about dating, where do you turn for that wisdom? 2 Timothy 3:16-17 and Psalm 19:7-11 speak of the sufficiency of the Word of God. In it we find the instructions for life and God’s requirements of us. It is the standard of truth that all other worldly wisdom must answer to. If the Bible says nothing about dating, giving no principles to help those in a dating context, then how can a person know how he or she is supposed to date? Would you rather turn to Oprah, movies, or your friends? Where are you going to get the guidance that is necessary to pursue a dating relationship that honors God if not from the Bible?

The Authority of Scripture. Even after a person seeks the Scriptures for principles that are applicable in a dating context, they do not always abide by them. When you act against clear principles from God’s Word, you manifest a distrust in the authority of Scripture. You would rather turn to another authority and reason for yourself what is right or wrong. The nation of Israel was guilty of this and fell into moral ruin. God says the reason why they did this was because, “In those days there was no king in Israel; everyone did what was right in his own eyes” (Judges 21:25). So often we think it is wise to act on what our hearts tell us. We think God is giving us peace about our decisions because we feel good about them. But the Bible says that our hearts are deceitful and sick (Jer. 17:9). Because of our sinfulness, our minds have been tainted by sin (cf. Gen. 6:5; Rom. 1:21-22). It is because of sin’s impact on the mind that our hearts are not the best determiner of what is sound. We need to seek the authority of God’s Word because without it we are like people in the dark with no light to lead us (Ps. 119:105).

These are just a few examples of how we demonstrate the weakness of our theology in the context of dating and relationships. We would be wise to be more consistent. It is not enough to have a load of head knowledge about God and His Word if you are not willing to live as though you believe it. God is not out to kill your fun. He desires the best for you. When you trust in His character, even when things do not go your way, you can hope that He has a better plan in store for you. Practicing good theology is vital to surviving the “dating game”! I cannot imagine how I would have survived all the anxiety, rejection, and loneliness if I did not have the sound principles and teaching from God’s Word. It is not that I practiced everything perfectly either. As one of my seminary professors said, “Dating is a cruel, hard game… but we must all play that game.” What better way to tackle one of the most significant decisions in your life than to seek God’s Word for wisdom and guidance?

Jonathan Edwards Resolution #48

by Pastor John Kim

Greetings to the LBC family and friends!

Jonathan Edwards Resolution #48
Resolved, constantly, with the utmost niceness and diligence, and the strictest scrutiny, to be looking into the state of my soul, that I may know whether I have truly an interest in Christ or not; that when I come to die, I may not have any negligence respecting this to repent of. (May 26, 1723)

To “have truly an interest in Christ” – this is something that cuts to the heart of all that we do. I find it to be sad at times that those who would say they are Christians, particularly in the Lighthouse family, who would do things that really do not have the interests of Christ at stake but their own interests, especially in relation to how they treat other people. But it is more than an issue of external behavior or how one might interact with someone. Someone might even appear to be supportive and helpful, all the while harboring resentment, bitterness, a critical spirit that does not have the interests of Christ reflecting the state of their soul.

Edwards often puts death into his perspective regarding many of these resolutions and we see that his goal was that he would not have anything to repent of in neglecting the importance of pursuing the interests of Christ. We will all too quickly find ourselves at the end of our lives and be faced with the daunting task of evaluating our life’s work and to see what we have accumulated in light of eternity. Gone will be the material desires as they no longer will be relevant once we die. Most people will look to how they will have lived in light of what was truly meaningful and as Christians, I think there are essentially two things that will show whether we have shown an interest in Christ or not.

The first would be our love for God. Matthew 22:37-40 dictates that we love God with our entire being. Anything less would show a disinterest as God is not worthy of anything less. Not that we will do it perfectly but is the heart passion truly there? The second thing that would show whether we have an interest in Christ is how we love people. It seems like some people really don’t exhibit any kind of care or compassion toward people, whether Christian or not. There is something to be said about people being deliberate and purposefuly in showing genuine Christian love toward people.

Edwards uses three thoughts in how he would assess his soul. First, to exercise the “utmost niceness” – I’m not sure if there is something that he understood niceness to be that would be different from today, but I would venture to say that when people get involved with self-reflection and evaluation that they can sometimes become very mean in how they think, not only toward themselves but in also how they end up judging others. I don’t think this means you are trying to purposely be easy on yourself but it really is a reflection of the heart attitude. What is the point of self-reflection if you are only going to be condemning? The point isn’t to condemn but to confess and repent and to learn.

The second thought would be diligence. To confront one’s own soul is not an easy task as we often do not want to face the reality of where we are spiritually. There are some Christians who would acknowledge that they are lazy and apathetic when it comes to their faith but they don’t really want accountability or to expend the energy to really address their struggles. We must be diligent and as Edwards says have no negligence when it comes to really pursuing our interest in Christ. To lack diligence would only seem to mean an increase in negligence and there is no good end in sight when one is negligent about the state of their soul.

The third thought would be that of strict scrutiny. To be specific and particular about addressing the things that would keep our eyes off of Christ. Hebrews 12:1-3 talks about the sin that entangles and the encumbrances that would distract us from running with endurance the race that is set before us. It is no surprise to see the extent of the 70 resolutions that Edwards wrote as it shows that he wanted to exercise strict scrutiny over his spiritual life before God.

We need to get off our comfy chairs and really take the Christian life seriously. Are you even remotely interested in Christ? Can others tell? Or is the primary interest in your life Jesus Christ and can people really tell? Take that to heart this week as you do all that you do.

In His grace,
Pastor John

Jonathan Edwards Resolution #47

by Pastor John Kim

Jonathan Edwards Resolution #47
Resolved, to endeavor, to my utmost, to deny whatever is not most agreeable to a good, and universally sweet and benevolent, quiet, peaceable, contented and easy, compassionate and generous, humble and meek, submissive and obliging, diligent and industrious, charitable and even, patient, moderate, forgiving and sincere temper; and to do at all times, what such a temper would lead me to; and to examine strictly, at the end of every week, whether I have done so. (Sabbath morning. May 5, 1723)

How is your temper? Have you lost it lately? What does it mean to lose your temper? I think for many people, the issue is not so much about losing your temper but about choosing what kind of temper you will exercise. Your temper is not a passive entity that is subject to the whims and winds of circumstances. You actually can choose how you will respond to the trials and challenges of life. But this can only happen when the Holy Spirit has filled you and is the source from which you are able to exercise the kind of temper that would truly glorify and magnfiy Christ.

When I first read this sentence by Edwards, I had to start laughing because of how many adjectives he uses to describe the kind of temper that he would try to cultivate. Here are some thoughts that seem to come out of this resolution:

1. He is resolved to deny what is NOT agreeable to this kind of temper. In other words Edwards is wanting to really do everything he can, “to my utmost,” to make sure that he is not contradicting in any way the kind of temper that he desires to exercise.

2. He is resolved “to do at all times, what such a temper would lead me to” – his actions are to reflect the kind of temper that he is seeking to exercise.

3. He is holding himself accountable at the end of each week to see how he has done. This is just some kind of one time attempt. He really is seeking to establish this as a discipline in to his life.

4. The list is quite extensive here in how comprehensive his temper should be exercised:

  • Good – pretty straight forward – GOOD temper versus a BAD temper
  • Universally sweet – could this be the extent to which this kind of temper would reach and would “sweet” be preferred to “sour”?
  • Quiet – as opposed to loud?
  • Peaceable – as opposed to being quarrelsome, pugnacious, given to instigating conflict
  • Contented – someone who is not always grasping for more or envious toward others
  • Easy – not so complicated and difficult to deal with
  • Compassionate – a genuine love and care for others
  • Generous – a servant’s heart to give and to serve, not with a tight-fisted attitude but one that is willing to give in an overflowing kind of way
  • Humble – not boastful and seeking self-recognition
  • Meek – exercising self-control and is not given to seeking self-glory
  • Submissive – willing to follow and be subject to authority with a sincere heart
  • Obliging – considerate and willing to think of others
  • Diligent – hard-working and not taking the easy route
  • Industrious – someone who makes the most of a situation, who works creatively for a good purpose
  • Charitable – loving, gracious, willing to give graciously
  • Even – balanced, not easily pushed over
  • Patient – longsuffering, willing to bear other’s burdens
  • Moderate – not given to extreme emotional displays that reflect a measure of lacking self-control
  • Forgiving – the willingness to show grace and mercy even in light of being wronged
  • Sincere – as opposed to being hypocritical, fake, or insincere in how they would present themselves

I suppose that I could have gone into more detail for each character quality – I’ll let you meditate on these thoughts and see if you could come up with more. But suffice it to say that there are many who would struggle with having the kind of temper that truly honors God. Too many Christians are short-tempered and easily given over to fits of anger and rage or despair or disconsolation that it does disservice to the truth that we have an all-powerful God who resides within us through the Holy Spirit to enable us to shine the light of the glory of Christ through our lives, particularly in how we respond to the circumstances of life. That’s why James 1:2 says that we should consider it all joy WHEN we encounter various trials, not IF we encounter various trials. We will face difficulties that will test our faith but our temper should not be swayed by them in the same way as those who do not have Christ as Lord and Savior.

Think about that the next time you “lose” your temper. It’s not that you lost it but rather that you chose to quit denyinig that which is agreeable to the kind of Christ-centered, Holy Spirit-filled, God-exalting temper that reflects the kind of redeemed heart that has been saved by the grace and mercy of God in Christ.

Let that keep your tempers in check =)

In His grace,
Pastor John

Match Day Interview – Andrew Ho

by Jen Shin

How were you feeling prior to Match Day?

We were more excited, that it was finally happening, so we’d know where to go. We were praying that we would stay but at the same time, we knew there was a chance of going to LA because I put it as my second choice. We just prayed that God would be sovereign and that we’d trust in wherever we ended up. The day of, I guess the same. Things were crazy during that time. We just had Ethan at the time, too. We were excited.

What was your reaction when you opened the envelope?

I was happy and I think Tiff was ok. We weren’t so excited but we were still excited to be able to go back to LA. We knew that if we were to go back to LA, we could still go back to Grace [Community Church] or IBC. And all our college friends are still in LA. We were sad that we weren’t all staying. If we wanted to stay, we could’ve put San Diego programs as two and three. But we prayed about it and felt like Cedars [UCLA] would be a good fit for us…to be back in LA…and it’s good for fellowship placement for gastroenterology, which I’m thinking about doing.

Sorry, for what?

For gastroenterology. GI. It’s three years of internal medicine and then three years of fellowship. We love Lighthouse, but at the same time, we’re excited to try either IBC or Grace. We thought there was no church better than Grace Church coming out from college. And then we came to Lighthouse… and we love Lighthouse. Eventually we want to come back. Before med school, these days would’ve been bigger for me. But now it’s like, God’s just going to bring us wherever. We’re going to have days like these, special days. Like when Ethan was born, that was a special day. Now it’s like ok, wherever you want us to go. We don’t want being a doctor or being part of a doctor’s family to define us. It’s just another part of a job.

Anything else you want to say to the church family?

[Sees Pastor John walking by] Thank you, Pastor John. [laughs]. Well, we just want to praise God for the past five years we’ve been here. We’ve really grown to love the church. We learned the importance of the church and membership. We’ve enjoyed being in fellowship, serving with everyone. And we’re excited to see what the church will look like in three to six years. The Ho Family will be moving the first week of June. Let’s use the time that we have with them to encourage them.

Match Day Interview – Alex Ko

by Moon Choi

Before Alex found out that he was going to be an internal medicine intern “cheerfully working at the luxurious Scripps Green Hospital” in La Jolla, he admitted to being more nervous that he had hoped to be because he did not want to his friends and family to feel disappointed “by this tangible manifestation of God’s glorious sovereignty over my life.” Though he ranked all of the residency programs for San Diego at the top of his list, he had come to accept months ago that he could end up somewhere other than San Diego. God had sovereignly led him to San Diego for medical school and landed him at Lighthouse; Alex knew that God would continue to be faithful, wherever he went.

Alex was one of the last guys to open his envelope. He had expected to be elated but rather, when he read “San Diego, CA,” he felt oddly subdued. Since he had already excepted that he may be going somewhere else for his residency, he had somewhat convinced himself that it would be good and likely for him to go elsewhere, “braving the crazy world outside, meeting exotic new people, living in yet another bachelor mega-pad.” The feeling of disappointment at missing out on an opportunity for another great adventure did not last long. Alex said that it was foolish thinking and that “I am 110% thrilled to stay” as Lighthouse is his “home away from heaven.”

Alex asks if we could pray that he would be a bold witness to patients and coworkers and that God would continue to replace his fear of man with “the overwhelming desire to magnify His worth in all circumstances without compromise.” He also asks us to keep him accountable to not settling for spiritual complacency as the demands of his career increase. He also add d, “Thanks! I look forward to finally answering your medical questions (give me a couple years).”