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Grace Life Update

by Pastor Patrick Cho

As Grace Life wrapped up another year last week, it was great to reflect back on the past year. The Thursday night Bible study tried something new this year having the men and women meet on separate weeks. This change stretched the staff a little as some of them got an opportunity to help teach the weekly lessons. It was an enriching in-depth study taking a closer look at the opening chapters of Genesis. By year’s end, we were able to study up through the Great Flood and Noah in Genesis 6-8. One of the highlights of the year was listening to the various staff members walk through their observations of the text. It was clear that each prepared diligently to deliver helpful lessons and it was refreshing to hear from different teachers each week.

The accountability groups also continued to meet each month throughout the community, which afforded families a more flexible means of receiving accountability and prayer while also enjoying some focused fellowship. There were about a dozen groups that met periodically. Some of the groups chose to work through a Christian book together while others spent time working through passages of Scripture. Mostly though, the men and women seemed to enjoy having that time to share with and pray for one another.

During Sunday School this past term, I have had the opportunity to walk through a parenting class. We have not had a parenting class in years, so it has been encouraging to see the interest and good attendance. Grace Community Church put out an excellent curriculum entitled “Parenting for Life,” and it has been a tremendous joy walking through it together. A number of singles and collegians have joined the class as well so hopefully the class will have a long-term effect.

The plan for the summer is to take a break from our regularly scheduled midweek meetings. The staff is evaluating how the past year has gone and will think through what would be best for the upcoming fall quarter. Grace Life can be a challenging group to plan for since so many are at various stages of life. We are constantly thinking through what would be the best way to shepherd this group. We are excited, though, about the opportunities that we have to continue to grow as a ministry. This past year, we saw a number of new families join the church, and we know Grace Life is a great way for them to get plugged in and find fellowship and care.

Praise God for a wonderful year! We hope all those who came out truly benefited from the study of God’s Word. As always, our endeavor has been to stimulate more spiritual conversations in the home and thereby strengthen marriages and parenting. May the Lord continue to cause us to mature in faith and may we find each year more joyful and edifying than the last.

LBCSD Spark – May 25, 2016

by Pastor Patrick Cho

Dear LBCSD family and friends!

I hope you are enjoying a wonderful week and walking in the Lord. As the school year winds down, let’s be in prayer for all of our college graduates. Pray that the Lord would direct them and that they would exercise wisdom in figuring out what jobs to pursue or schools to attend. What a testament to God’s faithfulness to carry these students through their college years while helping them mature in faith and grow in devotion to Him. May the Lord bless these men and women as they close this significant chapter of their lives.

In His grace,

Pastor Patrick

Here are some upcoming ministry opportunities for your consideration!

  1. Midweek Bible Studies. Our regularly scheduled midweek Bible studies are not meeting this week due to flocks. If you would like more information about our community flock groups, please contact Cesar Vigil-Ruiz (jn316niv@gmail.com).
  2. Sunday Service. This coming Sunday, the Argentina summer missions team will be presenting the plans for their upcoming trip to Tucuman. After Sunday School, the team will be hosting a special lunch fundraiser to help them with the costs of the trip. Come out and support our team!
  3. Monday Night Volleyball. Since this coming Monday is the Memorial Day holiday, Monday Night Volleyball will be moved to the park by the Wateridge house (10336 Wateridge Circle #300, San Diego, CA 92121). Since it’s the holiday, we will begin at 3:00 PM and play until it gets dark. We will also have a hot dog BBQ for dinner. Please bring $5 to help pay for food. Parking is very limited, so please try to carpool.
  4. Grad Brunch. Our college graduates would like to host a brunch for the church family on Saturday, June 11, from 10:00 AM to 1:00 PM. Come celebrate God’s faithfulness to the graduating class of 2016 and encourage them as they enter a new life stage! Food will be provided, but please RSVP with George Fang (gergeeyfang@gmail.com) or Jessica Yu (yu.jessicay@gmail.com). This will be a great opportunity to encourage our graduates and snap some pictures with them!
  5. Vacation Bible School. This year’s VBS theme is “Operation: Worship!” We’ll be learning how God has made us to worship Him with our whole being! The cost for elementary school children (grades 1-5) begins at $160 per child, with a $10 discount for each subsequent elementary age child of the same household. The cost for preschool children (4 and up, fully potty-trained) is $50 per child. Registration costs will increase THIS SUNDAY (meaning if you pay on Sunday, you will be required to pay more). To avoid the cost increase, please register with Josh Liu BEFORE Sunday (by Saturday night). Costs will increase again by another $20 on June 19. Contact Josh Liu for a registration form or for more information (liu.joshuac@gmail.com).
  6. Lighthouse Bible Institute. Pastor Patrick will be teaching a special class on basic systematic theology throughout the summer. The class will meet on Tuesday evenings from 7:00-8:30 PM. Anyone is welcome to attend, but you are asked to be faithful to attendance and assignments. Please contact Pastor Patrick if you are interested in taking part! The dates of the class are Tuesday nights from June 14 to August 30.
  7. Parent/Child Dedication. We will be having our next parent/child dedication service on Sunday, June 26, during our morning service. If you are the parent of a young child and would like to participate in the service, please contact Pastor Patrick. He will need: 1) your child’s full name (first, middle, and last), 2) the names of the parents, 3) the child’s date of birth, 4) a recent photo of the child or a favorite baby picture, and 5) a short 3-5 sentence blurb from the parents that will be projected during the service. The blurb could be a statement of thanks for the child and/or a request for prayer.
  8. Prayer Request. Please pray for Andrew Lin and Esther Cheng as they tie the knot this weekend! Congratulations to the happy couple! May the Lord bless them and watch over them as they begin married life together.

Maximizing Our Time & Joy Because the Days Are Evil (Part 2)

by Pastor James Lee

In Part 1, we embarked on a walk around the neighborhood to consider two common ways we mock God in neglecting our stewardship of our short time here on the earth – Two principles in which we need forgiveness as much as we find so much grace and fresh opportunity. First, I argued that complaining about time is complaining about God. And, fresh off of that meditation, I was again humbled to read Albert Mohler write, “We can be humbled by limitations of time without gaining any real wisdom in terms of its stewardship… I can feel the passing of time in my bones, and that knowledge makes me want to be a more faithful steward of time tomorrow than I was today. Time will tell.” Personal application is ongoing! But now let’s consider a second, of many common ways, we sometimes mock God in our sanctification.

2. Neglecting the Fact That Sowing One Thing Reaps More of the Same Thing

Proverbs 4:23 exhort us, “Watch over your heart with all diligence, for from it flow the springs of life.” Jesus proclaimed in Matthew 15:19, “For out of the heart come evil thoughts, murders, adulteries, fornications, thefts, false witness, slanders.” Paul wrote in 1 Timothy 4:7-8, “But have nothing to do with worldly fables fit only for old women. On the other hand, discipline yourself for the purpose of godliness; for bodily discipline is only of little profit, but godliness is profitable for all things, since it holds promise for the present life and also for the life to come. It is a trustworthy statement deserving full acceptance.”

We’re all disciplined. The question for each of us is: in what? Are we disciplining ourselves for godliness? Is our spiritual health the highest priority of our lives? There is no quick fix for godliness or secret sauce to spiritual growth. It takes steady persevering faith. Donald Whitney was right when he said that, “We discipline ourselves in what we delight in.” I loved sports growing up, so that playing volleyball for hours at the school gym, then again at the beach later the same day, was summer happiness. But running on a treadmill feels like I’m a lab rat running endlessly to nowhere; so gym workouts aren’t nearly as enjoyable. If we love something, our discipline in it doesn’t seem like discipline because we delight in it. If genuine love of Christ resides in our hearts, we will discipline ourselves for godliness.

I recently went to the garden department at Home Depot. I bought some cherry tomatoes to grow over the summer and a dwarf Meyer lemon tree for our patio. I’m confident about growing cherry tomatoes because we’ve had success with them in the past, but the lemon tree has been a nervous study about the right kind of container, potting soil mix, frequency of watering and fertilizer, sun exposure, pruning, and other factors. Likewise, each of us might need particular truths from the sufficient Word, to apply at any given moment. It’s not always one size fits all, as some would lead you to believe. Nevertheless, whether you have special dietary needs because you’re diabetic, or you’re a world class marathon runner, every one of us needs to eat and drink, or we’ll be dead. There is an inevitable link between what we put into our bodies and our health. All plants require sunshine, water, and nutrients from the soil. Any child knows that if you plant carrot seeds in a garden, you will harvest carrots. You don’t expect to get broccoli. There is an inevitable link between what we put into the ground and what we take out of it or produce later.

The same is true in our spiritual lives. We can’t neglect His Word, dependence on His Spirit, fellowship with His people, etc. and expect to be spiritually healthy. The Bible gives us a simple yet profound principle that is crucial to all healthy change and spiritual growth. It is found stated or illustrated in countless examples. One example is in Galatians 6:7-10:

Do not be deceived, God is not mocked; for whatever a man sows, this he will also reap. For the one who sows to his own flesh will from the flesh reap corruption, but the one who sows to the Spirit will from the Spirit reap eternal life. Let us not lose heart in doing good, for in due time we will reap if we do not grow weary. So then, while we have opportunity, let us do good to all people, and especially to those who are of the household of the faith.

Not exactly a sweeping revelation. There is nothing new or innovative under the sun. We reap what we sow. As it’s true in agriculture, it’s also true in our spiritual lives. What you see in your spiritual life today is the direct result of what you’ve put into the soil of your life in days past. What you see in your marriage today is probably a result of what you put or didn’t put into your marriage in days past. What you see in your grades today is likely the result of your study habits, diligence, or lack thereof, in days past. God is not mocked. Whatever a man sows, this he will also reap. Note that it’s of spiritual consequence, Paul says “God is not mocked;” that’s strong warning.

Do you know why some Christians make great strides in their walk with God while others are stagnant and mechanical and passionless? It isn’t because they lack some special godliness gene. It isn’t because of gifting, or of personality, or of upbringing, or some special event or circumstance or mentoring or lack of any of it. Of course, where godliness exists, it’s His grace and our dependence. But the difference is a matter of what each has planted into the soil of his or her own heart. Godliness isn’t a mysterious spiritual state that only an elite few or super-Christians can reach. We reap what we sow. Holiness is a harvest. And every Christian will bear genuine fruit over the course of time. But even as true believers, if we sow to our sinful desires, what the Bible calls the “flesh”, then we are told we will reap corruption. If we eat Snickers Bars and Chili Dogs all day every day for years, we will gain fat, develop diabetes, and suffer from heart disease. If we watch TV everyday after we work more than we study God’s Word, pray, and care for our family, then we will reap eventually the corruption that comes from eating that mental junk food. Then the spiritual weeds and rust that come from neglect will sprout and surface instead of godliness. If you neglect the spiritual disciplines and walking personally with God, don’t be surprised when you make sinful choices and change your life priorities waiting for a more convenient day. Don’t think that a little sexual innuendo, a lustful glance, or a casual fantasy won’t reap negative results no matter how small.

Paul presents us with two fields to sow in. One represents the Spirit and a life lived to depend on and please God. The other represents our sinful desires or the unredeemed “flesh.” Each of us can choose which field to plant seeds in. At any given moment we can go from one field to the other, kneel down, and sow seeds in one or the other. Where we sow, we reap. I recently planted some flowers in a little plot of dirt next to our garage for Sandy, and they’re blooming at the perfect time. I’ve been really intent on seeing them do well and not dying on me. I prepped the soil well, but no matter how pristine it is at the beginning, the wind is always blowing, so the spores from weeds inevitably will make their way there. The minute I see them, I pull those evil suckers from their roots. We can’t prevent the weeds, but we can prevent them from taking deep root and spreading. Same is true spiritually. All of us are in progress, and totally dependent on the Lord, but we must still be vigilant. Therefore, ultimately, you and I have two choices – sow to your flesh or sow to the Spirit, there is no in-between or neutral. In other words, if we are not sowing towards godliness, then we are by default going to be sowing to our sinful desires. To be inactive in growing your spiritual vitality and vision is to be actively diminishing it, and for some, destroying it. We should not merely “rest” in the gospel as a revived, yet subtle antinomianism would suggest. Our sinful desires and deeds are actual seeds that land in the soil of our hearts. They don’t just go away. They take root. They grow up. And unless we’re removing them, eventually they reap a harvest of spiritual disaster.

The late John Stott wrote, “Some Christians (foolishly and irrationally) sow to the flesh every day and wonder why they do not reap holiness.” What do you eat and pursue in your life? All of life’s choices – media consumption, career paths, books we read or books we don’t read, how we respond to anger or stress or difficult people, the use of money and our investment of it to the Satan-inspired lie of self-security or for His eternal kingdom, whether we embrace or avoid evangelism, what parenting principles we believe and practice (if you’re getting all your advice from your past or peers or psychology rather than the Bible, then what are you reaping?). And it’s not ever a lack of mentors as some of us might complain, it’s lack of the Word of God. Mentoring helps, but only so far as it reflects His Word. Plenty of bad mentors out there. And we may not pay the price now, but to a degree we will. And who will we blame when that day comes? We’ll probably find someone. But who can we blame? In reality, no one but ourselves. So the choice is simply this. Sow in the field of righteousness and grow holiness and expand witness and glorify God. Or sow in the field of the flesh and grow corruption and spiritual ineffectiveness, apathy, and shame. None of us will do this perfectly. It’s not perfection; it’s direction. Therefore, what direction are you and I sowing?

Joshua Harris wrote, “Growing in holiness is not about all the things you should avoid; it’s about the wonderful things you can and should be doing instead.” Not just putting off, but putting on. Not just saying no, but saying yes to something much better. Because no matter how much you exercise and eat salad, if you eat Krispy Kremes and bacon every other hour, you’re not going to be healthy. No matter how much you may externally attend a Sunday Service, it’s not going to undo all the real damage you’ve sown during the rest of the week. If you do not make it your direction and habit to humble yourself and strive to sow to please God and grow godliness gradually in your life, then you will never be a positive influence on the lives of others, you will never be a godly husband that your wife respects, you will never have anything lasting or substantial to teach your children, you will never be godly no matter how much you wish or claim to be so. Discipline yourself towards godliness. Stop making the excuses about being too tired or disliking reading or being too busy or justifying being in the path of sinners. Because if you sow that way, then that’s what you’ll reap. We can’t necessarily undo all our past choices or escape their consequences, but thankfully God’s grace is not negated and rescues. But starting today, I mean right now – we can ask God for His mercy and enablement – to daily commit to sow to please the Spirit. Every potential choice, every thought, every conversation, every deed, can be done to glorify God and it will lead to a harvest of eternal life and godliness. None of us will get it right all the time, but what we do get right will be blessed.

Has entertainment and “rest” become a “right” rather than a gift and responsible stewardship to be used for God’s glory? Did you know that recreation is “re-creation”, that its intended purpose is for renewal, not escape, and certainly not as a cover for one’s spiritual laziness? Yes, we can enjoy to the glory of God, and we need a healthy theology of rest, but I wonder if that is even pondered theologically and prayerfully. Too often, I observe that recreation has become something counter to what might please the Lord, in the sinful choices that professing believers engage in, that they’d blush embarrassment if they realized the Lord was actually in their midst, in terms of what they watch and where they go or how they reason it’s OK to participate in. But even when our enjoyment is legitimate and not inherently sinful, I’m not so confident that it’s saturated by gratefulness to the Lord and rejoicing in Him and not just His gifts? Have your plans somehow become more important than God’s plans? Has God’s Word become less important than the daily news or your favorite sports team’s scores? Have you become comfortable in not chasing after godliness as though your life depended on it? Have other things pushed aside the priority for Christ?

You reap what you sow. Sow laziness, reap the consequences. Sow neglect of your spouse, reap the consequences. So sinful culture, reap its approval. Sow pornography or the unedifying advertisement, reap the consequences. Sow bitterness and prejudice and greed, reap the consequences. Sow material wealth over storing up your treasure in heaven, reap the consequences. Sow anger, reap the consequences.

There are God-honoring priorities, but really only one! Mary had chosen the better of worship… and then she worked expressing that worship. First and foremost is our relationship to Christ – devotion to Him, our own soul care, a vibrant, growing, passionate walk with Christ has no substitute – it is absolutely essential and we must view and practice it as such. Paul rebuked the Corinthians, “But I am afraid that, as the serpent deceived Eve by his craftiness, your minds will be led astray from the simplicity and purity of devotion to Christ.” Jesus rebuked Ephesus in Revelation 2, “But I have this against you, that you have left your first love.” Get this right, and everything else falls into place. Get it wrong, and everything else slowly falls apart… or worse, it deceives and desensitizes you. Yes, our Father disciplines us, if we’re truly His, but we love Him too.

Martin Luther said once, “I have much to do today, Therefore I will spend the first three hours in prayer.” That’s the first thing that goes for me, if I’m honest. But from experience, prayer actually makes us more productive. It actually allows us not only to get the most necessary things done, but more things done in general. The godliest people in church history always prioritize prayer and were known for their private prayer. It might not always be long, but does it come first and does it come often? If so, then soon we’ll find that our prayer life becomes more intimate, more powerful, more consistent, and lengthier in substance. Our joy will increase, our contentment will grow, our faith will be strengthened… irrespective of circumstances. Our life will be a more like a continual spring of loving God and loving others, than a tank that always feels empty.

How about you dear brethren? Are you tempted to think otherwise? Is He your daily bread? Is He your all in all? Will your coworkers, your children, your friends say of you – he really loves Jesus, she really loves Jesus. J. Oswald Sanders gave this practical challenge, “Suppose that we allot ourselves a generous eight hours a day for sleep (and few need more than that), three hours for meals and conversation, ten hours a day for work and travel on five days. Still we have thirty five hours each week to fill. What happens to them? How are they invested? A person’s entire contribution to the kingdom of God may turn on how those hours are used. Certainly those hours determine whether life is commonplace or extraordinary.”

Are you and I redeeming the time? Are we truly, truly seeking to be faithful over being successful? We reap what we sow. But here’s encouragement – if you sow to the Spirit, you will also reap a harvest if you do not give up. Don’t get weary. As you sow to please the Spirit, a harvest of righteousness will begin to grow. Godliness will grow. That’s the promise from God Himself. It’s the one investment in life that always reaps happy dividends! It may not sprout up overnight, and sometimes you may feel like you’re not changing as fast as you desire. But you will. Endure. Because our hope for change is based on God’s grace. Yet, it requires the obedience of faith in God’s goodness. What are you sowing to at the present? There are only two choices: to please the Spirit or to please your flesh. Make a life of growing godliness the field where you sow.

Behold, Thou Art Fair, My Beloved

by Charles Haddon Spurgeon

Song of Solomon 1:16

From every point our Well-beloved is most fair. Our various experiences are meant by our heavenly Father to furnish fresh standpoints from which we may view the loveliness of Jesus; how amiable are our trials when they carry us aloft where we may gain clearer views of Jesus than ordinary life could afford us!

We have seen Him from the top of Amana, from the top of Shenir and Hermon, and He has shone upon us as the sun in his strength; but we have seen Him also ‘from the lions’ dens, from the mountains of the leopards,’ and He has lost none of His loveliness. From the languishing of a sick bed, from the borders of the grave, have we turned our eyes to our soul’s spouse, and He has never been otherwise than ‘all fair.’ Many of His saints have looked upon Him from the gloom of dungeons, and from the red flames of the stake, yet have they never uttered an ill word of Him, but have died extolling His surpassing charms.

Oh, noble and pleasant employment to be for ever gazing at our sweet Lord Jesus! Is it not unspeakably delightful to view the Saviour in all His offices, and to perceive Him matchless in each?-to shift the kaleidoscope, as it were, and to find fresh combinations of peerless graces? In the manger and in eternity, on the cross and on His throne, in the garden and in His kingdom, among thieves or in the midst of cherubim, He is everywhere ‘altogether lovely.’ Examine carefully every little act of His life, and every trait of His character, and He is as lovely in the minute as in the majestic. Judge Him as you will, you cannot censure; weigh Him as you please, and He will not be found wanting. Eternity shall not discover the shadow of a spot in our Beloved, but rather, as ages revolve, His hidden glories shall shine forth with yet more inconceivable splendour, and His unutterable loveliness shall more and more ravish all celestial minds.

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A Little Known Man Worth Following

by Roger Alcaraz

Not a lot is known about Epaphroditus. Even as you read his name, you might have thought, “Who?” I’m talking about the man who was sent to Paul’s imprisonment and then later was sent back to the Philippians. We read a little bit about him in Philippians 3:25 where Paul writes, “I have thought it necessary to send to you Epaphroditus my brother and fellow worker and fellow soldier, and your messenger and minister to my need.”

While we don’t know many details about him, we do know some things. We know that while Paul was in prison, the Philippian church heard of his situation and sought to help by sending money to support his ministry. The man who delivered the money was Epaphroditus (c.f. Phil 4:18) But the Philippian church instructed him not only to deliver the money but to stay and serve Paul however he needed. So he was a messenger and minister representing the church. And you can be sure that the church would have chosen a man of good character and faith to represent them.

And over time, Paul saw him not just as a messenger, but as his “brother, fellow worker, and fellow soldier” (Phil 2:25). He partook the the same work as Paul, labored by his side, and endured trials together. Thus, he carried a good reputation in the church for his godliness. He had a servant mindset, and he was brave, even risking his life.

But he was also desperate–desperate to go back and see his church family. Paul writes, “for he has been longing for you all and has been distressed because you heard that he was ill” (Phil 2:26). Because of his illness, Paul actually decides for him to go back. If it were up to Epaphroditus, he probably would have stayed with Paul as long as he could, because that was the nature of his commitment and servitude.

But Paul could clearly see how his being separated from his church family was affecting him and so he decides to send him back, but look closely at the wording for the reason he wants to go back so badly. It reads, “for he has been longing for you all and has been distressed because you heard that he was ill. Indeed he was ill, near to death.”

It’s not because he was sick that he wants to go back, but because the church heard that he was sick. That is quite a selfless love–that in his pain, he would be focused on how his pain is affecting others rather than himself.

I think most of us are the opposite. The more natural thing to do when we’re suffering is to focus on how our suffering is affecting us and how others ought to be serving us. Now granted, our suffering will primarily affect ourselves, but that doesn’t mean it has to be our primary concern.

For Epaphroditus, he missed his church very much. But what he missed more than the blessings he would receive from them were the blessing he could offer to them.

That was why he wanted to go back. He couldn’t bear the fact that he had been the cause of pain and worry in the church, and he so desperately wanted to go back to comfort and encourage them with the news that he’s okay.

How about you? When you’re sick for a while, are you more upset by the fact that you’re unable to minister the way you would if you were healthy, or are you upset by the thought that people should be ministering to you?

Now you might be wondering, “Wait, shouldn’t others be caring for me when I get sick?” And yes, they should. But that’s their priority; it shouldn’t be yours. And we see a perfect picture of what it looks like from both sides.

Epaphroditus fell ill, almost to the point of death, even. And yet his desire was to not cause pain by the news to his church. That was his desire. But the church said “Too bad! We’re gonna hurt along with you, and so long as you’re suffering, we’re suffering.” Each side is more concerned about the other. And this is God’s design for how we ache and suffer for one another.

Epaphroditus sets for us, a true display of love in that no matter how much he suffered, he always thought of others. And the church also displays true love in that no matter how little the person wanted them to carry his burden, they carried it. You might talk to someone who tells you of a trial in their life and they tell you not to worry about it. That is no licence for you to say, “Okay, I won’t worry about it.” Fortunately for everyone involved, God had mercy on him and on Paul who would also have experienced great sorrow if he died.

My point in all this is simple. Epaphroditus as a great man of faith and love. So much so that the church decided to send him to Paul as part of their gift to him. But his love for the church was so great that it brought anguish upon him and eventually, he had to go back to see and comfort them. He didn’t write Scripture. He didn’t perform outstanding miracles. But he serves as an example of great faith and love found in an ordinary man. And while he has mostly been forgotten throughout history, he undoubtedly received great honor from the one who matters the most. Let us follow in his footsteps and receive the same honor from Christ.

Ministering with a Mother’s Heart

“But we proved to be gentle among you, as a nursing mother tenderly cares for her own children. Having so fond an affection for you, we were well-pleased to impart to you not only the gospel of God but also our own lives, because you had become very dear to us.” (1 Thessalonians 2:7–12)

“As mothers are absolutely and indisputably essential to the well- being of children, so spiritual leaders who minister with a mother’s gentleness, intimate affection, sacrificial love, and unselfish labor are essential for the health of the church.” (John MacArthur)

by Pastor John Kim

This is not something you often hear regarding church leadership, that you should reflect the character of a mother. But the apostle Paul shares about this kind of perspective, something that is very much needed in today’s churches, especially as you hear about pastors these days who have been dismissed from their churches due to a harsh spirit, a domineering spirit, where people are being spiritually abused and severely traumatized due to a lack of love.

There is something about a mother that resonates universally – from the time you are born, your mother is the one who will not only take care of you, but love you, and gently, tenderly, affectionately be there for you. This is not just a sentimental thing – to be gentle, tender, and affectionate is not something that will always come naturally.

Sure, there are times when a mother sees her child and thinks, “Oh how I love this child!”
There are other times when a mother sees her child and can’t help but think “I can’t handle this craziness!” To choose to be gentle, tender, and affectionate is not based on someone being deserving or worthy but it is a deliberate choice to work toward being that way.

Paul uses the imagery of a mother going through labor in his ministry towards the church:

“My children, with whom I am again in labor until Christ is formed in you-” (Galatians 4:19)

The word “labor” here in this verse is the word used for the labor pain at the birth of a child. It is the most intense and prolonged pain that only a mother who has given birth can truly understand. But it is a pain that is embraced and endured because the mother knows what will be the end result – the birth of a child.

It is as if Paul says, not only did I labor to see you be brought to spiritual life but that he is also laboring to see them grow in Christlikeness.

This is what the perspective of a mother should bring to the leadership of the church. It is a long term commitment not only to the beginning stages but to the long-term growth of a congregation where there should be a very clear and unmistakable sense where the leaders show a gentle, tender, and affectionate care for the members.

Gentleness

The abuse of a baby is one that is completely inexcusable. To hurt one that is incapable of defending himself, to be so hard-hearted that you would inflict pain on a little one is something that most people would find deplorable.

Instead you can imagine the kind of treatment that a baby would receive, especially when he or she is just born. You can only expect there to be a gentle handling of that baby by all involved.

In many churches today, you do not see this kind of mentality toward people. In fact, it is only maybe in the nursery that you might see it, but I would like to use the nursery ministry as a very visible way to drive home this point. What if parents were to walk in the nursery and see the nursery workers treating their little ones in a rough manner? What if they were just yelling at the child and handling them harshly? There is no way you would put them in the nursery, would you? What would you expect in the nursery? I can tell you what you should expect in the nursery – you should see that there are those who have committed themselves and prepared themselves to be gentle – gentle toward a child that will typically come in crying, not wanting to be there, not immediately cooperative, not willing to to share, not willing to listen to instructions, but still be gentle toward them. Why? Because that is the kind of character you are to display to these little ones.

But to be gentle is not limited to the children. The apostle Paul is talking about the church.
He is sharing how he and his team did not come with flattering speech (2:5) and they were not there to seek glory from men (2:6). He did not assert even his apostolic authority in ministry but instead ministered to them as a mother would to her children.

To be gentle is not a small thing nor is it something to be associated with being weaker. It actually takes great strength to be gentle as a mother is gentle with her child. You will see a mother talk gently and gently handle her little child, who has just thrown up, who has just soiled the diaper for the 20th time today, who has just thrown a tantrum over eating vegetables. If an adult treated you the way a child treats his or her parents in these ways, there is no way you would respond gently in response to them.

But this is the picture of strength – to display gentleness, a meek and quiet spirit that brings peace and calm. Gentleness is something that we need to value more in the life of the church as well as in the home.

Gentleness is a manifestation of the work of the Holy Spirit in your life as well.

“But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, self-control; against such things there is no law.” (Galatians 5:22–23)

Note that the fruit of the Spirit is a multi-colored expression of different character qualities and gentleness is highlighted as a quality that reflects the work of the Holy Spirit in your life.

“Now I, Paul, myself urge you by the meekness and gentleness of Christ—I who am meek when face to face with you, but bold toward you when absent!” (2 Corinthians 10:1)

The apostle Paul urges by the gentleness of Christ – what a picture of one who instead of asserting apostolic authority instead appeals to the gentleness of Christ as the means by which he would exhort and even correct those who had stubbornly questioned his apostleship.

“Therefore I, the prisoner of the Lord, implore you to walk in a manner worthy of the calling with which you have been called, with all humility and gentleness, with patience, showing tolerance for one another in love, being diligent to preserve the unity of the Spirit in the bond of peace.” (Ephesians 4:1–3)

Again Paul highlights among other things the quality of gentleness to be that which reflects a worthy walk as well as that which contributes to the preserving of the unity of the Spirit in the bond of peace in the life of the church.

“So, as those who have been chosen of God, holy and beloved, put on a heart of compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness and patience; bearing with one another, and forgiving each other, whoever has a complaint against anyone; just as the Lord forgave you, so also should you. Beyond all these things put on love, which is the perfect bond of unity.” (Colossians 3:12–14)

How do you show that you are one of God’s chosen? By a heart of compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness, and patience.

“Brethren, even if anyone is caught in any trespass, you who are spiritual, restore such a one in a spirit of gentleness; each one looking to yourself, so that you too will not be tempted.” (Galatians 6:1)

Even in your confronting of a fellow believer in sin, true spirituality is shown in the pursuit of restoration in a spirit of gentleness.

“But flee from these things, you man of God, and pursue righteousness, godliness, faith, love, perseverance and gentleness.” (1 Timothy 6:11)

Instead of being the kind of person who seeks the sordid gain of the love of money, Paul urges Timothy to flee from such things and instead among other things, pursue gentleness.

“What do you desire? Shall I come to you with a rod, or with love and a spirit of gentleness?” (1 Corinthians 4:21)

You can only imagine as Paul is being tested by what he has heard going on in the Corinthian church. There were those who questioned his authority and were arrogant because Paul wasn’t there. But even then, Paul questions them as to how he should come – whether with the rod or with love and a spirit of gentleness?

A good question to ask is how would you want your spiritual leaders to come to you when you are caught up in your sin. Sometimes there is a call for strong reproof and discipline when there is a stubborn, rebellious heart. But how must more would it be preferred to not have it come to that but instead invite a gentle response. So there is a time for a stern reproof but even so, there would be a preference to display gentleness.

“The Lord’s bond-servant must not be quarrelsome, but be kind to all, able to teach, patient when wronged, with gentleness correcting those who are in opposition, if perhaps God may grant them repentance leading to the knowledge of the truth, and they may come to their senses and escape from the snare of the devil, having been held captive by him to do his will.” (2 Timothy 2:24–26)

Again, even when facing opposition, there is a maturity and a sense of perspective that looks beyond the immediate situation and expresses gentleness in the hope of seeing God grant repentance.

“Who among you is wise and understanding? Let him show by his good behavior his deeds in the gentleness of wisdom. But if you have bitter jealousy and selfish ambition in your heart, do not be arrogant and so lie against the truth. This wisdom is not that which comes down from above, but is earthly, natural, demonic. For where jealousy and selfish ambition exist, there is disorder and every evil thing. But the wisdom from above is first pure, then peaceable, gentle, reasonable, full of mercy and good fruits, unwavering, without hypocrisy. And the seed whose fruit is righteousness is sown in peace by those who make peace.” (James 3:13–18)

Spiritual wisdom, wisdom from above, is the kind of wisdom that is characterized by gentleness. It stands in opposition to bitter jealousy and selfish ambition, to arrogance and lies.

Wisdom from heaven is characterized by a gentleness that exudes both in the content and in how it is presented.

Tender Care

The primary thought behind this word is the idea to cherish. It is to treat with tenderness and affection. It is to have a nurturing spirit, one that would figuratively warm someone with their care. The same word is used in Ephesians 5:29 in the context of how a husband is to cherish his wife, just as Christ cherishes the church

Probably the most significant picture of tender care would be that of a mother nursing her child. That’s why Paul uses this description to convey the heart attitude of how ministry should be conducted.

This tenderness is not something to be seen as just a feminine trait.

“And you, child, will be called the prophet of the Most High;
For you will go on before the Lord to prepare His ways;
To give to His people the knowledge of salvation
By the forgiveness of their sins,
Because of the tender mercy of our God,
With which the Sunrise from on high will visit us,
To shine upon those who sit in darkness and the shadow of death,
To guide our feet into the way of peace.” (Luke 1:76–79)

God Himself exercises a tender mercy. This is something that one might not expect to be highlighted of the omnipotent God but when you consider the whole gift of salvation, is it not appropriate to see the tenderness of God revealed to undeserving sinners?

“Be kind to one another, tender-hearted, forgiving each other, just as God in Christ also has forgiven you.” (Ephesians 4:32)

If we have experienced the tender mercies of God in being granted forgiveness of Christ, you would think that this would have a profound impact in the life of His children. There is something to be said about a congregation that is tenderhearted toward one another. You will also see a kindness, an atmosphere of forgiveness because it all points to the reality of the gospel

Fond Affection

The idea behind this quality is that of a strong and persistent longing, a yearning, a very strong affection. John MacArthur notes that ancient inscriptions on the tombs of dead babies sometimes contained this term when parents wanted to describe their sad longing for a too-soon-departed child.

You can see this in the heart of a mother toward her child, especially when she is separated from her child for any reason. Try talking to a mother who is longing for her child – that is the only thing on her mind! But why? Because there is this strong affection, a longing, a persistent yearning.

This is the kind of affection that should exist within the church as well, especially in the leaders.
There should be such a sense of affection that there would be the willingness to lay down your life. The ministry of the gospel was not just one of imparting information but one of imparting life. A true minister of the gospel is one who is willing to give his very life for the sake of those that God has given to minister in the church body.

Paul shows such an example, that at the heart of his ministry was not just cold obligation, not just an imparting of information, but a fond affection.

“For I am confident of this very thing, that He who began a good work in you will perfect it until the day of Christ Jesus. For it is only right for me to feel this way about you all, because I have you in my heart, since both in my imprisonment and in the defense and confirmation of the gospel, you all are partakers of grace with me. For God is my witness, how I long for you all with the affection of Christ Jesus.” (Philippians 1:6–8)

There are some pastors and church leaders who show absolutely no affection toward the members of the church. There is a business mentality, almost like looking at people simply as commodities or numbers instead of thinking of how to truly shepherd them as Christ would shepherd the flock. It is tragic when you see this kind of attitude, especially in the leaders of the church. They fail to represent and reflect the Savior, who presented Himself to be gentle and humble in heart.

“Come to Me, all who are weary and heavy-laden, and I will give you rest. Take My yoke upon you and learn from Me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For My yoke is easy and My burden is light.” (Matthew 11:28–30)

My hope and prayer is that our Lighthouse churches, especially the leadership of all the churches, would reflect these kind of qualities in such a way that the watching world can see the absolute stunning brilliance of how the gospel has transformed our lives and how we treat one another. It really goes against everything the world would value and highlights what would reflect our Savior in the most appropriate ways, especially in the life of the church.

He Led Them Forth By The Right Way

by Charles Haddon Spurgeon

Psalm 107:7

Changeful experience often leads the anxious believer to enquire ‘Why is it thus with me?’ I looked for light, but lo, darkness came; for peace, but behold trouble. I said in my heart, my mountain standeth firm, I shall never be moved. Lord, thou dost hide Thy face, and I am troubled. It was but yesterday that I could read my title clear; to-day my evidences are bedimmed, and my hopes are clouded. Yesterday I could climb to Pisgah’s top, and view the landscape o’er, and rejoice with confidence in my future inheritance; to-day, my spirit has no hopes, but many fears; no joys, but much distress. Is this part of God’s plan with me? Can this be the way in which God would bring me to heaven?

Yes, it is even so. The eclipse of your faith, the darkness of your mind, the fainting of your hope, all these things are but parts of God’s method of making you ripe for the great inheritance upon which you shall soon enter. These trials are for the testing and strengthening of your faith-they are waves that wash you further upon the rock-they are winds which waft your ship the more swiftly towards the desired haven. According to David’s words, so it might be said of you, ‘so He bringeth them to their desired haven.’ By honour and dishonour, by evil report and by good report, by plenty and by poverty, by joy and by distress, by persecution and by peace, by all these things is the life of your souls maintained, and by each of these are you helped on your way. Oh, think not, believer, that your sorrows are out of God’s plan; they are necessary parts of it. ‘We must, through much tribulation, enter the kingdom.’ Learn, then, even to ‘count it all joy when ye fall into divers temptations.’

‘O let my trembling soul be still,
And wait Thy wise, Thy holy will!
I cannot, Lord, Thy purpose see,
Yet all is well since ruled by Thee.’

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Sister’s Appreciation Night

by Humphrey Lin

The church was unrecognizable, as black and white streamers drooped from the ceiling, string lights snaked up the sanctuary poles, and hand-painted portraits of flowers, fruits, and sceneries covered the walls of the foyer. A hundred collegians crowded the foyer, the men dressed sharply in black and white, and the ladies looking stunning in colorful dresses and elegant heels. A hush came over the crowd as a voice announced: “please enter the sanctuary, Sister’s Appreciation night is about to begin.”

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The Preparation

Hours before the event, the church was bustling with commotion, as the College Life men busied themselves decorating the sanctuary and foyer, setting up chairs and tables, and creating centerpieces for the night. Twenty to thirty collegian men of all classes worked tirelessly as the church was slowly transformed into an elegant banquet hall, while more labored in the kitchens of the Costa Verde apartments, creating over a hundred portions of stuffed mushrooms, bruschetta, pork loin, and panna cotta. This night would be the culmination of weeks of planning, deliberation, and practice, not to mention hundreds of dollars in donations. But it was all worth it—to appreciate our sisters to the glory of God.

The Night

The freshman guys darted between tables of excited diners, delivering food, clearing trash, and refilling empty cups of water. Dinner was in full swing, as collegians laughed and conversed over plates of handmade Italian cuisine and an eclectic band of College Life men played Italian folk songs in the background. A short intermission followed dinnertime, and as the guests sat back down, stage lights dimmed, and an unexpected video started playing. A moustache-twirling villain had stolen the freshman guys’ meal cards, and the girls must solve a riddle to get them back. It appeared that each class of the collegian men was in some sort of danger, and the girls must rescue them in turn. As the villain’s plans (and accent) evolved, so did the challenges, and interweaved between hilarious videos, chaotic games, and over-the-top theatrics, each class of College Life men shared special performances to express their appreciation for their sisters in Christ. More than a few tears were shed.

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The Reason

The Bible instructs us as a church to encourage one another with words and acts of service (Ephesians 4:29; Romans 12:10-11). Nights like these are for the purpose of building up, that through our displays of gratitude and service, members of the body would be pushed more towards love and strive more towards Christlikeness (Ephesians 4:15-16). But why specifically the sisters?

Throughout much of history and in many places around the world today, it is incredibly difficult to be a woman. The curse of sin resulted in cruel and oppressive cultures in which the women are regarded as second class citizens and objects of men’s selfish desires. Even though it is much easier to be a woman socially and economically in modern day America, Bible-believing Christian women face pressures from all sides to conform to the twisted beliefs of the world; on one side, media and pop culture seek to objectify women and glorify the physical image and on another, feminism seeks to destroy the Biblical foundations of marriage, submission, and the sanctity of life.

The women of Lighthouse Bible Church College Life live in a world that says physical perfection is beauty, submission is humiliation, and gentleness is weakness. But as a shining light in a time of darkness, they live in a way that demonstrates that the Bible is their foundation and Christ is their Lord, and to be wise is to be beautiful and to submit is to be exalted. Their worth is not found in physical beauty or social status, but rather in “the imperishable beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which in God’s sight is very precious” (1 Peter 3:4). The women of College Life are rare and beautiful, and they often don’t realize it. But we (the brothers) do, and so does the Lord our God. So with a collective voice and a small token of our appreciation, the men say “thanks, hope you enjoyed the night.”

LBC Weekly SPARK – May 11, 2016

by Pastor Patrick Cho

Dear LBCSD family and friends!

I hope you are off to a great week! I hope you enjoyed the teaching series through the Book of Titus! I am looking forward to beginning the Book of Mark and would encourage you to go ahead and read through it several times before we begin in the summer. In the meantime, we’ll cover some very important topics throughout the remainder of the school year and into the summer. Some topics we’ll be studying are Missions and Church Planting and The Doctrine of Sanctification. We may also try to squeeze in a brief study in the short Old Testament book. The possibilities are endless! =)

As it is the end of another school year, please be in prayer for our college graduates. It’s an exciting time for them, but we ought to pray that they would be sensitive to the Lord’s leading in their lives and joyfully submit to His sovereign plan. Please also pray that the Lord would provide for them and care for them through this time of transition.

In His grace,

Pastor Patrick

Here are some ministry opportunities for you to consider:

  1. Midweek Bible Studies. Our regularly scheduled midweek Bible studies continue this week at the church. Lumos Youth and College Life meet on Friday at 7:00 pm. Single Life meets on Wednesday at 6:30 pm. Come out as Pastor Roger continues his series on dating and relationships. Lighthouse Kids’ Club will meet on Thursday at 6:30 pm.
  2. Grace Life Bible Study. Since the men’s Bible study was cancelled last week for Grace Life, this week will be a combined men’s and women’s study on Thursday at 6:30 pm. Nursery care will be provided. Come out for this wonderful time of worship and fellowship.
  3. Sunday School. Adult Sunday School classes continue this weekend. FOF will be covering Lesson 10: Spiritual Gifts. Pastor Roger will continue his series on Soteriology covering the topic of Sanctification. Pastor Patrick will continue in the Parenting Class syllabus finishing up Lesson 3: The Parents’ Challenges, and hopefully moving on to Lesson 4: The Parents’ Roles. Don’t forget to look at the homework for Lesson 3.
  4. Monday Night Volleyball. Every Monday at 5:30 pm, Lighthouse sets up volleyball at La Jolla Shores. We meet on the very north end of the grassy area. Come out for some fun and exercise!
  5. MEN’S SEMINAR! Calling all men! There will be a men’s seminar on Saturday, May 21, at the church. The theme for the seminar is “War with the World” addressing the problem of worldliness in the church. The cost is only $10 to attend and financial assistance is available to those in need. You can sign up with Shihong Zu on Sunday in the foyer. Contact Pastor Patrick if you have any questions.
  6. Summer Missions. On Sundays, May 22 and 29, we will focus on the theme of missions for our morning services. On May 22, the Czech Republic summer missions team from LBC Los Angeles will be presenting what will be happening this summer in Beroun. They will also be hosting a lunch fundraiser after the Sunday School hour. On May 29, we’ll switch gears and focus on the Argentina team being sent out by LBC San Diego. They will present the plans for this summer in Tucuman and San Justo. They will also host a lunch fundraiser after the Sunday School hour. Please mark your calendars and support our teams. For more information, support letters for each team are available in the foyer on Sundays.
  7. Vacation Bible School. Registration for VBS is now open! The dates for VBS are June 27 to July 1, and this year’s theme is “Operation: Worship!” We’ll be learning how God has created us to worship Him with our whole being! For elementary school-aged children (Grades 1-5), the cost for registration is $160 per child, with a $10 discount per subsequent elementary-aged child of the same household. For preschool-aged children (4 and up, fully potty-trained), the cost for registration is $50 per child. All costs will increase by $20 on May 29 and again on June 19. Contact Pastor Josh for a registration form or for more information (liu.joshuac@gmail.com).
  8. Congratulations to our SDSU graduates! Please pray for Sarah A, Angela K, Samantha L, and former member Kevin B as they finish up their programs and graduate this coming weekend!

Towards a Fruitful Bible Reading Plan

by Pastor Mark Chin

Could we live without words, be they spoken, written, or signed? Words are more than just pieces of information. At the end of the day, words are about relationships. They represent and share the person who gives them. Without words, real relationships cease to exist. All we are left with is silence.

Sadly, we live in a time where words are plentiful and cheap. Is it any surprise that our relationships are frequently the same – including our relationships with God and the people of God?

Quality and meaningful time in the Word begins with a transformed heart that appreciates by faith the value, meaning, and significance of the words being spoken to us as we read the Scriptures.

The overwhelming temptation of the flesh is to view the Bible as just another book – a difficult textbook filled with an abundance of words, just like all the words of any other book. The result, when we give in to such a temptation, is to reduce our devotional time to a check box on our to-do list, like purchasing groceries or reading through a health insurance manual. Is it any surprise that our time in the Word is dry and feels like reading an old telephone book that has been lying around the house when we approach Scripture in this way?

In John 15, Jesus draws a connection between abiding in Him, abiding in His Word, and obeying His commandments. A living relationship with Christ is directly related to a living relationship with His Word – a relationship where His Word is more than just something we read. It is lived.

For the men of Scripture, especially our Lord and Savior, the words of Scripture were exciting, compelling, living, and life-changing because they were, for them, the very words of God Himself, made alive by the Spirit of God.

Heb. 4:12 says “For the word of God is living and active, sharper than any two-edged sword, piercing to the division of soul and of spirit, of joints and of marrow, and discerning the thoughts and intentions of the heart.”

What is evident as we read the words of Scripture is that the men whom God used to write these words genuinely appreciated and treasured, by faith, the person, the relationship, and the gift these words represented. Do we?

One of the essential ingredients for a fruitful Bible reading plan or daily devotional is a heart that, by faith, truly appreciates God’s words for what they are – His words – and approaches them as such. This is something only God can give and so, it is something we need to pray for – desperately. Without the help of His Holy Spirit, our daily devotionals will be just like reading a telephone book.

So lets pray consistently for ourselves – and one another – that the Lord would give the members of our church a heart to know and love Christ by knowing and loving His precious words to us.