Weekly Links (12/17/2010)

by Stephen Rodgers

Well hello again!  It’s Friday, and that means that we have a new collection of links for you all…and there’s a story behind these.  You see, until a few moments ago, I was sure that today was the last Friday before Christmas, and so I had a special version of the links for you…a Christmas edition.  Then I looked at a calendar to try to figure out when I needed to finish some housework in order to deceive my visiting parents into believing that I’m this responsible and organized all the time…and BAM!  Oops.  Wrong Friday.

So…here is a special version of the links after all…a special normal version.  That almost didn’t happen.

  • Desiring God ministries is experimenting with giving away free Christian ebooks that are in the public domain.  For starters, you can cruise over here and grab a copy of Jonathan Edwards’ Religious Affections.  (EPUB file)
  • And in case you forgot…they also are giving away free PDF versions of EVERY John Piper book. No joke.  How awesome is that? (PDF)  (Note: I stand corrected…I think that a few recent ones are missing, but there’s still over 50 books there for free)
  • Jon Acuff is hit or miss for me.  For those who don’t know him, he’s a Christian comedian.  Sometimes he strikes me as a bit more comedian than Christian.  But this article…this article nails it. Nails. It. And if you won’t take my word for it, here’s the first sentence: “Sometimes, I treat God like a gun.” Now you have to read it to find out what he means. (WEB)
  • So I’ve been doing a LOT of reading on the related topics of productivity, time management, efficiency, the doctrine of good works, etc.  Along the way, I started to actually despair a little…one of the greatest regrets in my life is how much I haven’t done…not much hurts as much as the pain of opportunities and time lost and gone forever.  Then I read this. I hope it helps you as well. (WEB)
  • Don’t worry…I won’t forget your weekly dose of Paul Tripp. This time, he has an article that seems to dovetail very nicely with our recent articles on making decisions and minimal Christianity. (WEB)
  • So, as you all know, I recently joined the ranks of the engaged.  Which means that articles like this one have taken on a whole new level of importance.  If you’re thinking about dating, dating, thinking about getting engaged, engaged, thinking about getting married, or married…you should probably read it. (WEB)
  • May we live this well. (WEB)
  • May we die this well. (WEB)

Whew!  Even forgetting that it wasn’t Christmas yet, there you go!  And be sure to join us a week from today, for a special Christmas edition of the Weekly Links.  See you Sunday!

Pro Rege

The Sparkler’s Preschool Ministry

by Mike Hasegawa

This may sound a bit strange, but my service in the preschool ministry traces back to Rick Holland’s DTR series. “What!?” you might say. Well, read on.

Like many college students, it took me a while to stop “church hopping” and commit to a local church. For me, this was during my sophomore year at UCSD. At the time, I had been listening to Rick Holland’s dating series. These sermons were helpful in learning who God wanted me to be, and the kind of woman I should be looking for. But more than thinking I was ready to date, the Holy Spirit convicted me that I needed to develop relationships with older “Pauls” in the faith who would challenge me with the truth, and younger “Timothys” that I could encourage to better follow Christ.

At the time I was going to a church in El Cajon, but it was difficult to cultivate these discipleship relationships since I didn’t have a car. Given this newfound conviction, I began asking friends where they were going to church. One of them, Tia Han (former LBC member), had nothing but good things to say about Lighthouse so I decided to give it a try.

I was hooked after just one service. On that Sunday, before Pastor Patrick gave the offering prayer he said, “Here at Lighthouse, all the other parts of our worship service such as praise-time or meet-and-greet have a set time (e.g. 15 minutes). But the main part of our worship service is the preaching of God’s Word. So we don’t really have a time limit on that; we just let Pastor John go!”

On a side note, not much has changed since then.

Besides the solid preaching, the main reason I settled on Lighthouse was due to the opportunities I had to get to know the older, godly men at church. I am thankful that God gives both the desire to learn, and to serve Him by ministering to others.

The preschool ministry is the first ministry that God allowed me to be a part of. Although I still enjoy being challenged by the older men at church, I am thankful that God has allowed me to invest in the next generation by teaching them about our awesome God and His glorious gospel.

The preschool ministry exists for two main reasons. The first is that God has called parents and the church to pass on the greatness of God to the next generation (Ps. 78:4-7). The preschool staff seeks to accomplish this by making every lesson about the person of God, and the gospel. We are using the Children Desiring God curriculum which is great because it covers the entire OT and NT. The second is that the preschool ministry exists as a help to the preschool parents. By teaching from God’s Word, we seek to give the parents more opportunities to discuss God’s Word with their children during the week.

The preschool staff hopes to help the children develop a good foundational understanding of God, the gospel, and their sinfulness so that one day, God-willing, they will be able to turn to Him to be saved.

If you ever walk down the hall and hear screaming and laughter, please make sure to poke in your head and say, “Hi!” to these precious members of our church!

Editor’s Note: To find the (in)famous “Rick Holland’s DTR Series” (complete with commentary on “sturdy Czech women” which caused drama with my fiancee!), please click here and then type “relationship series” (without the quotes) into the search box.

LBC Weekly SPARK – December 15, 2010

by Pastor Patrick Cho

Hello friends and family at LBC!

I hope you are doing well and walking in the Lord. ‘Tis the season to be shopping for Christmas gifts, planning holiday parties, and vacationing with family. Our family enjoyed walking up and down our street last week to look at the Christmas lights on all the houses. One family invited us in and showed us their ten foot Christmas tree and holiday decorations. It was really pretty!

With all the fun of the holiday season, let’s also take some time to remember Jesus. Ironically, when he was born, there were no lights strung on houses. There were no ornately decorated trees. It was a humble birth in a stable and Christ was laid in a manger. How amazing to think in that humble scene that there laid the Savior of the world! Christmas should always remind us of the amazing grace of God. He sent His only Son to save sinners. This truth is the basis for real Christmas cheer. In comparison, all the festivities of the world, as bright and shining as they are, really are empty and meaningless.

Let Jesus be at the heart of all your celebrating this season!

In His grace,

Pastor Patrick

Here are the announcements for this week:

  1. Christmas Service. Our annual Christmas service will be this Sunday, December 19 during our regular worship service time. Come and hear the message of Christmas as well as some special music performances from our Christmas concert. The kids will not be dismissed during the service, but nursery care will be provided.
  2. Sunday School. We will not be meeting for Sunday School again until January 9. All classes will be taking a break for the holidays.
  3. Kids’ Club. Kids’ Club will be meeting tonight at 6:30pm at the church. This will be the final meeting for 2010. We will resume on January 5!
  4. Singles Christmas Party. The single adults ministry will be having a Christmas party this Friday, December 17 at 7:00pm. This will be a dessert potluck and gift exchange ($10 max). Please talk with Andy Shin if you have any questions.
  5. Friday Night Bible Studies. The Friday night Bible studies will be taking a break until after the New Year. They will resume on January 7.
  6. Potluck with Pastor John Kim. On Sunday, December 26, Pastor John and his family will be visiting from San Jose. As such, we will be having an informal potluck gathering at 5:30pm at the church. This will be a great time to find out more of what’s going on with the church plant. John will be sharing briefly as well as answering any questions you might have. If you would like to come, please email Pastor Patrick to sign up for the potluck (pastorpatrick@gmail.com)!
  7. New Years Eve Fellowship. On Friday, December 31, we will be having a New Year’s Eve Fellowship at 5:30pm at the church. For this event, we will be having a potluck dinner. To sign up for the potluck, please contact Jonathan Yang. For the kiddies, we will have a countdown to 9:00pm. There will be plenty of games and activities so come out and have a good time!
  8. Elders Retreat. Please pray for the elders as they have a planning retreat this weekend. Pray that it would be a productive weekend and that God would grant wisdom to work through decisions and planning.

Living Theology #48 – The Lord’s Supper

by Garrett Glende

Following our discussion on baptism, it is appropriate that we tackle the other ordinance that Jesus left for the church, the Lord’s Supper. Just like last week’s article, Richard has already written a four-part series on the issue and has covered it in much more depth than we will here. That being said, if you wish to get a more complete understanding of this ordinance, then head on over to those pieces. Nevertheless, if you don’t have the time to read four lengthy articles, then this is the place for you. We’ll take a brief look at the doctrine as the Bible presents it and then discuss how this should impact the way we live. (Editor’s Note: Read all of them; it will be good for you.)

The Lord’s Supper as we know it was instituted by Jesus in the upper room with the disciples on the night of His betrayal. Matthew 26:26-29 gives the following account:

“Now as they were eating, Jesus took bread, and after blessing it broke it and gave it to the disciples, and said, “Take, eat; this is my body.” And he took a cup, and when he had given thanks he gave it to them, saying, “Drink of it, all of you, for this is my blood of the covenant, which is poured out for many for the forgiveness of sins. I tell you I will not drink again of this fruit of the vine until that day when I drink it new with you in my Father’s kingdom.”

With this act, Jesus tells the disciples the meaning of this meal. It was to remember His death that brought them forgiveness of sins. Paul recounts in 1 Corinthians 11:24-26,

“And when he had given thanks, he broke it, and said, “This is my body which is for you. Do this in remembrance of me.” In the same way also he took the cup, after supper, saying, “This cup is the new covenant in my blood. Do this, as often as you drink it, in remembrance of me.” For as often as you eat this bread and drink the cup, you proclaim the Lord’s death until he comes.”

So we see more explicitly from Paul’s account that there were two main purposes for this ordinance: remembrance and proclamation. The symbol of the bread and wine being broken and poured represents the body and blood of Christ. Thus, as we partake in this communion we are to be reminded of the fact that Jesus dies on our behalf. The death that we were so deserving of, He willfully took on as He hung on the cross. Being covered by His blood, we are now declared righteous before God. Since this act is a symbol of the gospel message, every time we partake in it we are declaring to the world that Christ has indeed died for our sins. Communion is a proclamation of Jesus’ sacrifice and our union with Him. Just as baptism is a public declaration of our new life in Christ, so is the Lord’s Supper a sign of our continual life in Him.

Because of the many misunderstandings of this practice, it seems worth making note of a few. Most of the false teachings on the Lord’s Supper originate from the Roman Catholic Church. They promote the doctrine of transubstantiation, or the idea that the bread and wine are actually changed into the literal body and blood of Christ as the priest offers them up. During this ceremony there is an actual sacrifice for sins that takes place, according to the church. There are more intricacies to the argument, but it’s clear from the Bible that Christ has only died once for sins and there is no longer any sacrifice necessary. Hebrews 9:24-28 states this clearly:

For Christ has entered, not into holy places made with hands, which are copies of the true things, but into heaven itself, now to appear in the presence of God on our behalf. Nor was it to offer himself repeatedly, as the high priest enters the holy places every year with blood not his own, for then he would have had to suffer repeatedly since the foundation of the world. But as it is, he has appeared once for all at the end of the ages to put away sin by the sacrifice of himself. And just as it is appointed for man to die once, and after that comes judgment, so Christ, having been offered once to bear the sins of many, will appear a second time, not to deal with sin but to save those who are eagerly waiting for him.

Christ does not need to offer up any more sacrifices because it is already finished, as His own words on the cross indicate. This is an essential doctrine to the Christian faith because without it there would be no assurance at all that our sins have truly been covered. We must affirm that Christ has died once to bear our sins and that this one sacrifice was completely sufficient to pay for every single one of them.

The Lord’s Supper should be a time of great celebration for the Christian. We are reminded of the wonderful realities of our salvation and the tremendous price that was paid to secure it. One of the effects of Christ’s death is the reconciliation of rebellious sinners to a holy God. We were once enemies of God, but He has brought us near to Him through the cross. There was once war, but now there is peace. Having this in mind, there is no way that we can come to participate in communion if we have not been reconciled to our fellow brothers or sisters. How can we celebrate peace with God if there is no peace within the body? It would be hypocritical to do so. The taking of the bread and the cup outwardly signals that we have been reconciled to God, but if our hearts have not been reconciled to one another, then these actions are empty. This is one reason why we take the peacemakers pledge so seriously at LBC. A refusal to be reconciled to a brother or sister is not only harmful to our testimony as Christians, but it is contradictory to the very core of what we say is most important to us. Taking this a step further, I think it’s easy to hold grudges against people even when we’ve said that they’re forgiven. We may harbor bitterness or resentment and not even notice it, but we must recognize these attitudes when they creep up and then repent of them. For the church to really be unified, we must constantly be forgiving one another with a posture of humility. If this kind of spirit is fostered in every member of the church, then when we take communion together we can celebrate it in the fullness of its meaning, giving thanks to God for reconciling us to Himself.

Minimal Christianity

by Elder Peter Lim

If you were to describe your ideal life, what goals would you include? Prestigious college, high-paying career, good-looking spouse, well-behaved children, large house with modern appliances and a home theater in a nice family oriented neighborhood within a good school district? How about some fancy cars, high-end electronic gadgets and gourmet food as well? How about throwing in at least 4 weeks of vacation every year, so that you can spend some quality time with your family? But as a Christian, shouldn’t we be concerned with reaching the lost with the gospel, discipling younger people, serving at church, and caring for the poor and needy? You may be getting a little uncomfortable at this point because you can foresee where I’m going with this and it’s not a comfortable place I’m headed to. Perhaps you might be getting a little upset because this is starting to sound suspiciously like a legalistic guilt trip.

Note that none of the goals listed above are sinful. In fact, there is nothing wrong with any of them. We all want those things, don’t we? After all, there are no verses in the Bible that says we can’t have any of those things, right? Actually, this is beginning to sound a lot like a description of my life, minus the fancy cars. So what’s the problem? Is there something wrong with the way I’m living? The fact is, many of the goals of the typical American Christian, though not necessarily sinful, are in competition with the Biblical priorities for a Christian. But this competition is not necessarily whether or not we are allowed to have these things while living a God-glorifying life but rather it has more to do with how willing we are to think Biblically and make decisions that are Spirit-led. Elder Mike has been writing some helpful articles dealing with decision-making so I won’t repeat those points here. The absence of Biblical instruction regarding those goals (including entertainment options) should speak volumes to us regarding their non-importance. I’m sure that we are sophisticated enough to rephrase our goals so that we would say that we want those things for the sake of ministry. Whether that intention is altruistic or not is between you and God. Bottom line, many of these decisions are within the realm of wisdom issues rather than right versus wrong. Making wise decisions is what Elder Mike is dealing with. I’m merely trying to point out in this article that too often, we have a minimalistic attitude when it comes to desiring certain things for our lives.

For example, many of us wouldn’t mind just going to church on Sunday, hearing a good sermon, and then going home to relax the rest of the day. Maybe attend an occasional Baptism service or Members meeting. The rest of the week is filled with work and maybe a Saturday family activity, gardening, golf, or hanging out with friends. Repeat this the following week for the rest of your life. This is a minimal mindset. Does this sound attractive to you? Then where is the ministry to younger people of the church? Counseling them? Serving the needy? We should have a missional mindset. Many people are using the word “missional” lately but what I mean by this is that we should live as if we are on a missions trip, for example, to Tucuman or Ostrava or wherever else. This means that although it wouldn’t be wrong to have a house or car or whatever, our priority is to work together to spread the gospel. If the whole team is meeting together to prepare for an evangelistic outreach in Tucuman, you wouldn’t miss that because of some sporting event, would you? Or because it’s the opening weekend of a new blockbuster movie? Why would we live differently just because we’re here in San Diego instead of elsewhere? We should live like a missionary because we are missionaries.

Unfortunately, the life of a typical Christian in the United States can be described as minimal, by erring toward the side of personal comfort rather than living out the primary purpose of a Christian. Many of us excuse our current behavior by telling ourselves that we are in a special phase of life that will prepare us to live a more committed-to-Christ life in the future. The problem is, every phase of life has its uniqueness. Collegians need to study, single adults are looking to establish their careers and find their mates, newly married couples are in a honeymoon period, older married couples are dealing with kids from the baby stage on up to college, and then they feel too old to have enough energy to do ministry. I don’t know beyond this point because I’m not that old yet.

So what’s the solution? As always, we look to scripture for our answers. I would like for you all to read Colossians chapters 3 and 4 but since it’s helpful to highlight a few passages, here are some:

  • Col. 3:1-2 “Therefore if you have been raised up with Christ, keep seeking the things above, where Christ is, seated at the right hand of God. Set your mind on the things above, not on the things that are on earth.”
  • Col. 3:15-17 “Let the peace of Christ rule in your hearts, to which indeed you were called in one body; and be thankful. Let the word of Christ richly dwell within you, with all wisdom teaching and admonishing one another with psalms and hymns and spiritual songs, singing with thankfulness in your hearts to God. Whatever you do in word or deed, do all in the name of the Lord Jesus, giving thanks through Him to God the Father.”
  • Col. 4:5-6 “Conduct yourselves with wisdom toward outsiders, making the most of the opportunity. Let your speech always be with grace, as though seasoned with salt, so that you will know how you should respond to each person.”
  • 1 Thess. 5:14 “We urge you, brethren, admonish the unruly, encourage the fainthearted, help the weak, be patient with everyone.”
  • 2 Thess. 3:6-7 “Now we command you, brethren, in the name of our Lord Jesus Christ, that you keep away from every brother who leads an unruly life and not according to the tradition which you received from us. For you yourselves know how you ought to follow our example, because we did not act in an undisciplined manner among you”

If we are busy living out these verses as well as the “one anothers”, we won’t have much time left to spend on lesser priorities. Instead of asking ourselves whether some activity is right or wrong, we need to ask ourselves whether it’s really the best way to glorify God. You will find that much of what we want to do can be forsaken for a more worthwhile activity. When we do need to take a vacation and enjoy recreation, we should do so with the attitude of wanting to re-engage in the priorities of ministry as soon as we are able to because our time on Earth is short.

And I Looked, and, lo, a Lamb…

by Charles Haddon Spurgeon

From Revelation 14:1

The apostle John was privileged to look within the gates of heaven, and in describing what he saw, he begins by saying, ‘I looked, and, lo, a Lamb!’ This teaches us that the chief object of contemplation in the heavenly state is ‘the Lamb of God, which taketh away the sins of the world.’ Nothing else attracted the apostle’s attention so much as the person of that Divine Being, who hath redeemed us by His blood. He is the theme of the songs of all glorified spirits and holy angels. Christian, here is joy for thee; thou hast looked, and thou hast seen the Lamb. Through thy tears thine eyes have seen the Lamb of God taking away thy sins. Rejoice, then. In a little while, when thine eyes shall have been wiped from tears, thou wilt see the same Lamb exalted on His throne.

It is the joy of thy heart to hold daily fellowship with Jesus; thou shalt have the same joy to a higher degree in heaven; thou shalt enjoy the constant vision of His presence; thou shalt dwell with Him for ever. ‘I looked, and, lo, a Lamb!’ Why, that Lamb is heaven itself; for as good Rutherford says, ‘Heaven and Christ are the same thing;’ to be with Christ is to be in heaven, and to be in heaven is to be with Christ. That prisoner of the Lord very sweetly writes in one of his glowing letters-‘O my Lord Jesus Christ, if I could be in heaven without thee, it would be a hell; and if I could be in hell, and have thee still, it would be a heaven to me, for thou art all the heaven I want.’ It is true, is it not, Christian? Does not thy soul say so?

Not all the harps above
Can make a heavenly place,
If God His residence remove,
Or but conceal His face.’
All thou needest to make thee blessed,
supremely blessed, is ‘to be with Christ.

1.17a

Weekly Links (12/10/2010)

by Stephen Rodgers

Hello again everyone! It’s Friday, which means we’re back with a new edition of the weekly links for you all:

  • We don’t highlight articles for the parents as much as we should, so let’s start off with a great one: 31 Ways to Pray for Your Children. (WEB)
  • And for the singles, here’s a quick excerpt of a John Piper sermon dealing with the idea of your job as ministry. (And yes, I know that more than just the singles have jobs, but they have the most freedom to focus on their job, and we did just post an article for the marrieds…) (WEB)
  • CJ Mahaney has an interesting take on the differences/challenges between a large church and a small church. (WEB)
  • For those who are intersted in great theological articles that are a bit on the weightier side, Themelios 35.3 is out. (PDF/WEB)
  • Here’s something that will brighten your day…one of the friends of DG recently posted an article on a rather unique cab ride they recently had… (WEB)
  • Tim Challies has some thoughts on what Christians should be mindful of given the recent Wikileaks drama. (WEB)
  • And over at the DG site again, Jonathan Parnell uses his BibleArcs method to exposit several verses.  It’s worth checking out if you have any sort of interest in hermeneutics: (WEB)

That’s it for this week; see you Sunday!

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Update from the Wendlers (Grace Life)

by John Mark and Lauren Wendler

1) What have you been learning?

We have been learning a lot in the first chapter of the book of Mark. The purpose of Mark’s gospel was to prove that Jesus was the Son of God to a Gentile audience. We see that people reacted to the gospel the same way in John the Baptist’s time as today: some believed, some thought they didn’t need it, others thought it was crazy. Jesus was baptized so he could relate to sinners, and He then immediately submitted to the Spirit’s impelling him to go into the wilderness and be tempted by Satan. Jesus can sympathize with our weakness because he underwent this testing and trials. We then see how Jesus sought out the disciples, and Peter, James, John, and Andrew were immediately obedient by leaving their nets (and their father for James and John!) to follow Jesus.

2) What has been particularly challenging for you?

Having a Lord that sympathizes with us really challenges us to give all our desires and passions for what we do and want to accomplish to be more in line with the life Jesus calls us to(self-sacrifice, loving others, etc.) The disciples willingness to drop what they were in the middle of doing to follow Jesus is especially challenging as it is easy to hold tightly to the security a job provides, or the comforts of living in San Diego.

3) How has the study been stimulating your spiritual growth?

Seeing Jesus’ willingness to relate to the world by going through trials, calling his disciples with references to their occupation has caused a deeper love for scripture and has enhanced our prayer life by adjusting our mindset when talking to our Wonderful Lord and Savior who is also our Friend.

The Strengthening Your Relationship questions that we go through together, on our week off from Mark, help evaluate our spiritual health. We have found that the questions facilitate God glorifying conversations in which we can make it a habit to evaluate how we are doing and encourage each other along the way.

Living Theology #47 – Baptism

by Garrett Glende

Continuing on in Wayne Grudem’s section on ecclesiology, we come to the chapter on baptism, the ever-dividing distinctive between churches. And this is a sad thing – that there is so much strife over this issue – because baptism really should be something for all Christians to celebrate, as it reflects the reality of our great salvation. This article will deal shortly with a few doctrinal issues, mostly because Richard has already written an extensive series on the topic, but also because I want to flesh out more of the practical implications. So please go and read Richard’s articles first and then come back here to get another helping of the Bible’s teaching on baptism.

First, we must establish that the purpose of baptism is for the believer to identify him or herself with Christ. Specifically, we identify with a risen, victorious Savior, who has conquered sin and death. When someone is baptized, they are proclaiming to the world that they have received new life in Christ and that they are now a part of His team, per say. We see these themes played out in Romans 6:3-4 where Paul writes, “Do you not know that all of us who have been baptized into Christ Jesus were baptized into his death? We were buried therefore with him by baptism into death, in order that, just as Christ was raised from the dead by the glory of the Father, we too might walk in newness of life.” Paul also notes that we have “been buried with him in baptism, in which you were also raised with him through faith in the powerful working of God, who raised him from the dead” (Col. 2:12). By taking part in the ordinance of baptism, the church body as a whole is able to celebrate their own newness of life along with the person being baptized.

The division amidst churches over this issue that I mentioned before comes in exactly how this ordinance is observed. At Lighthouse, we teach that baptism by immersion is the biblical model that we should follow. Not only does the Greek word for “baptize” literally mean “to plunge, dip, or immerse,” but the symbolic meaning of the practice is best conveyed by full immersion. Christ’s death and burial is symbolized by being dunked under the water, not being able to get out unless brought back up. Thus, being lifted up out of the water illustrates our identity with Christ’s resurrection. Other methods such as sprinkling do not convey this image to its fullest extent and are not supported by the majority of the Bible’s teaching on baptism. We should additionally note that baptism is only to be administered to those who have professed a saving faith in Jesus Christ. For more on these issues, read Richard’s articles.

Since the purpose of baptism is to reflect an already present spiritual reality, those who have been baptized must live in light of these spiritual truths. Going back to Romans 6, the context of these verses comes right after Paul has explained the abundant grace of God in forgiving us all of our sins. Then in verse one he anticipates that some will ask, “Are we to continue in sin that grace may abound?” He sharply denies this assumption and then goes on to explain that we have died to sin and are now raised to newness of life, which is the exact teaching that is reflected in baptism. Therefore, all who have been baptized must live according to the new life that they have received. First of all, this means that we must take sin seriously. Paul condemns all attitudes that treat the grace of God cheaply, calling them to remember their unity with Christ’s death and resurrection. We shouldn’t just assume that we can go on sinning so that God can show us more grace. To the contrary, we must kill the sin in our lives, knowing that it is the very thing that separated us from God in the first place. Additionally, our lives must be lived with an eternal perspective. In baptism, we identify also with the resurrection of Christ, knowing that one day our own bodies will be raised from the dead and we will live for eternity with Him. It’s so easy to get caught up in the things of the world and only live for what we can see. Our culture tells us to pursue material wealth and comfort, but these things will not last. Thus, all Christians must live in light of the fact that their true home is in heaven for eternity. This is where our hope is found. We cannot hold tightly onto things that will ultimately burn, but rather cling to our hope found in the resurrection of Christ.

What Is a Family?

by Pastor Patrick Cho

In a recent article entitled “Four in 10 Say Marriage Is Becoming Obsolete,” by Hope Yen, posted on Yahoo! News, studies have shown that the general public does not consider marriage to be as much of a necessary factor in what constitutes a family as in times past. While most society-defined “families” today still include a husband and wife in a marriage relationship, single parent homes and same-sex couples with children are also gaining widespread acceptance as “families.”

Since the numbers for divorce continue to rise and single parent homes are more the norm than the exception, Yen writes, “More people are accepting the view that wedding bells aren’t needed to have a family.” Certainly, the article is not offering anything particularly new. One merely needs to flip on the television and watch a few sitcoms or dramas to see the paradigm shift. It is becoming less common to see television shows focused on nuclear families. Instead children on TV are being raised by single parents or same-sex couples (consider for example shows like “Modern Family,” and “Two and a Half Men”).

Certainly, a single mother living with her children constitutes a family (albeit a broken one), but what is troubling about this article is the idea that the definition of family should be adjusted to more accurately describe what we are seeing in today’s society. Not only is this simply mistaken, it is also a case of missing the point.

Yen reports, “When asked what constitutes a family, the vast majority of Americans agree that a married couple, with or without children, fits that description. But four of five surveyed pointed also to an unmarried, opposite-sex couple with children or a single parent. Three of 5 people said a same-sex couple with children was a family.” What is a family anymore? To the general public, the definition seems to be getting more and more blurry. Broken homes are no longer considered broken, but rather are accepted as common. Divorces are seen less as unfortunate and more as expected. Celebrity marriages in particular become the butt of jokes as people estimate how long they will last.

But does this unfortunate trend in society mean that the definition of family needs to change? This is indicative of a culture that is not anchored by truth. Words become muddled. Definitions become difficult to nail down. Right changes to wrong, and wrong to right. All of this stems ultimately from an abandonment of the Giver of truth and the Word of truth. Sadly, the ideals of Christianity, which were once widely accepted, are now looked upon less as good and more as antiquated, intrusive, obnoxious, or hateful. Even that might not be so bad, were it not for the overwhelming tide of pluralism that seeks to relegate religious belief entirely to the realm of subjective, personal experience.

Interestingly, the same redefinition is happening with the church. The popular trend has been to see the church as obsolete. Christians are encouraged to go on “spiritual journeys” and find individualistic ways to develop their spiritual well being. Church is no longer thought to be necessary because people have deemed it as such. Doesn’t this sound eerily similar to what Yen is writing about the family? I wouldn’t be surprised if some popular Christian author came out with a new book entitled something like Family Revolution, arguing for an abandonment of a biblical understanding of family and instead adopting a sociologically defined one.

What is needed is not a redefinition of terms to justify the unfortunate trends we see in society. If definitions are constantly changed in order to describe current societal trends, definitions will eventually become obsolete, and discussing anything in absolute terms will become next to impossible. Instead, what is needed more than anything else is for people to turn to God’s Word to see how God has defined terms, concepts, and ideas. Society needs to be anchored in truth so that we can know when we are straying from what was originally intended. It is as if in our attempt not to label anyone as wrong, we are simply redefining words to make wrong more acceptable. This is not charitable, it is cheating; to borrow a sports analogy, it’s simply a case of moving the goalposts. Only when one begins with God’s truth can there be a true understanding of right and wrong, along with the ability to discern one from the other.